how can i get my mom to stop feeding my dog table food?

Question

Ive been here visiting my parents and staying in their house, i will be here for about another month, i was doing THEM the favor or staying here because i live out of state and they wanted me to come visit since i havent in so long, i brought my dog with me. i ask her repeatedly not to feed my dog table food and shes doing it anyways, i actually smelled my dogs breath yesterday and it smelled like garlic after she just got outta the kitchen, went in the kitchen and what do u know.. my mom is eating garlic croutons. some people might say o well its not bad, but its MY dog and i dont want her to have that and shes not respecting me. then tonite my mom said, " oh look, mica is jumping up on the chair and nudging me letting me know she wants something cuz she knows i feed her when jessica isnt looking" wtf? she said min before that that she doesnt feed my dog or she hasnt lately. and then right after saying that, asked if she can give my dog a scrap. im tired of it. what can i do?

talking to her doesnt help because i have done it before, and a hotel isnt an option at this time. i still ahve another month till i can leave. she also has a small dog, and she asked me not to feed her dog a certain type of dog food cuz it gives her diareah, should i start giving her dog that type of food? its not the dogs fault. i just want her to see. i already said when i have children she will not see them or be alone with them. my fiance said, we might just have a kid thats diabetic, and they go to her house and shes feeding them a hershey bar and ends up in the hospital. she really had NO respect for me, what can i do in the mean time until i leave

i have always respected my mother, when she ask me not to do something, i dont. i know when i was a teenager i didnt, but i know now that u have to give respect in order to receive it, and i wouldnt give her pets certain things if she asked, my sister and her kids also live here, and i respect my sister when she ask me not to let her kids have something or feed them a certain thing, and i expect her to respect ME when her kid is trying to hit my dog with a clothes hanger and i tell her to make him stop. i LOVE animals. more so than anyone else in my family and just try to protect them. i said maybe i should give her dog dog food that makes her have the runs so she will see what its like. im tired of giving respect out and not receiving it

Answer 1

My fiance's mother does that to our dog. Her 2 mini dachsunds live on people food, as did their previous dog, who they claimed "lived 16 years on table scraps," which was not true, because with their dogs they give the dogs small, cut up portions of human food, in our serving dishes, let it cool down, and give each dog a certain amount because if one dog gets more, the others get jealous, and crap like that. I started to feed the dogs people food just to get them to shut up-they are really possessive and bite and bark and beg for food and that is the only thing that shuts them up. I know it is bad, but the dogs are unhealthy and overweight even when i met my fiance, but with our dog, she will get hip problems if she gets overweight (she is a golden retriever) and all retrievers get hip problems so it is important to keep them lean. (and this means no people food). i would just tell my mom off if it was me because she has no right to do that, i don't give a sh!t if she is a grandma or what! she has ABSOLUTELY NO SAY IN THE MATTER! and if she keeps it up, then LEAVE HER HOUSE!!!

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear you are having such a difficult time. Yes, I understand that you've tried talking to her....but from the rest of the message it appears you and your mom have a few other issues. One of which is that maybe neither of you respect the other. So this is an extra sore spot that both of you just continue to battle with, without a solution. Apparently mama wants all the control and really doesn't care about consequences. The threats you are telling her may help you to feel better but unfortunately, they have no effect on mom, she isn't worried about non-existant grandkids at this time, so your threats don't scare her.

On the last sentance of the first part of this question you wrote the one glimmer of hope that you can probably work with....

she said min before that that she doesnt feed my dog or she hasnt lately. and then right after saying that, asked if she can give my dog a scrap.

The little light here is that FINALLY she asked you IF she could give your dog a scrap.

ok, we see she hasn't paid attention before to your requests...
also we see that she likes to sneak ....(WHY?.......
is she trying to get your dog to 'love' her....maybe spoil her .... or maybe she just needs attention....from both you and your dog....
or is she cruelly trying to usurp your authority, esp in 'her own house'? Is she trying to make you and your dog 'know whos' boss?)

There really is hope in the fact that even after she has exasperated you to no end...she finally asks if it's ok to give him a scrap......

Well the young man who answered prior to this said, give your mom some dog treats that you would feed your dog and let your mom give him those treats. Explain (as lovingly and as kindly as possible) that you have some plans, ideas and goals as to raising your dog, you do not want your dog to be a begger for scraps, you do not want your dog to jump up on furniture and most of all you want your dog to eat food that is nurishing for dogs....NOT People food. Try to anticipate your mom giving you some slack and going along with your idea, kind of include her in your work with your dog at this time....make her feel like since you are her guest...she is your partner with your dog and make her feel good about it....Not only should this overcome the dog feeding problem, but it might help you two get on a much better footing with each other....as you have a lot of time together you don't want to waste it being upset and frustrated.
God Bless you, it is not an easy situation hope my advice helps.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you are having troubles. Since talking to her won't work, maybe a compromise would help instead. Supply her with some treats that she could give the dog instead; and if she still wants to feed her people food, maybe you can convince her to give the dog healthy options, like carrots or pieces of apples, or cheese.
There's a lot of foods that could harm the dog or make them sick, such as chocolate, onions, broccoli, and too much dairy.

I understand how frustrating it can be. I am constantly fighting my in-laws over a similar issue, because they always want to give my dog pieces of meat and bones; I have to supply them with carrots and special food because my dog is on a special low-protein diet (for medical reasons).

Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm sorry, that must be so frustrating.

My mom feeds my dogs too when I'm not looking. Luckily they seem to know it's only ok with Grandma and don't beg like fools to anyone else.

Why don't you let her know that it needs to stop or you need to leave? In private. Don't embarrass her in front of the rest of the family..that can only have bad results. If it's a huge concern....she should respect that. You need to head home and let her know you can't stay with her again if she can't respect your wishes. You'll visit, but you'll need to stay in a hotel.

If you can't do that......get used to a pudgy dog, and let the anger go.

I've found that an allergy/medical concern is different from a "please don't feed my dog people food" request. If she could see a valid reason....I bet she'd listen.

Answer 5

its not healthy for the dogs, also... it makes them beg when ever they see you eatting, it getts a lil aggervating after a while. exspecially when ur talking r something while eatting and u happen to take the food away from you they try to jump up and get it.
o and some advice, never leave your plate unattened!

Answer 6

I don't think she means anything by it. It's like how a grandmother likes to spoil her grandchildren. Just tell her it's not healthy for him. Maybe get a bag of dog treats for her to give him every once in a while.

Answer 7

Whack her with a rolled up newspaper, it works on dogs. So why won't it work on mom.

Answer 8

just sit down and alk with her and tell her that it can be very bad for your dog and can give him probelems

Answer 9

i once caught my mom giving my dog an entire roast.leftover from dinner.you are going to have to kill her.sorry.

Answer 10

You could try breaking her arms. (teasing)