my 5 year old is always hitting my 3 year old. always fighting and when i tell my 5 year old something he tells me i don't love him etc. he yells and acts really mad. waht should i do he doesn't listen?
2007-01-04 13:54:41 · 10 answers · asked by rym22604 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
try making him feel important, needed, and included when you are tending to the 3 year old. Remind him that the 3 year old needs help and doesn't know how to do much by him/herself and he/she needs him to teach her. Allow him to do more with your guideness to help the 3 year old. Ask him to help you show him/her how to do things and you and the 5 year old show the 3 year old together. This will help with the jealous, but be far warned sibling always fight especially when close in age. Remind the 5 year old how much you love him and find something special you and him can do together regularly to allow you and him quality time together. Don't take it personally--he just has some jealous and insecurity -- he really doesn't hate you or the 3 year old.
2007-01-04 14:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by mother of 5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set boundaries and consequences. Establish the idea of personal space and inforn your child that they have a right to have their personal space respected and the responsbility to respect the space of others. Talk to your child and find out why he hits his sibling. There could be jealousy. Establish a routine consequence whenever your 5yr old hits the 3yr old. Have a "time in". If your child is consequenced to the stairs for 5 minutes, you or your spouse sit with him. Discuss the reasons why he is on the stairs, and the inappropriate nature of his behaviour. Do not isolate the child as a consequence, it will only cause more jealousy or frustration with his sibling.
2007-01-04 22:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by great_expectations 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably feeling a little left out and he knows he's getting your attention when he's hitting his younger sib. When he does it follow your discpline when he tells you that you don't love him. Reinforce your love for him by saying "that hurt my feelings even though you hurt my feelings i still love you" Set at least 20-30 mins. aside just for him and you. Make a big fuss about it or go out on a date with your 5 year old make a big fuss about taking him to McD's or wherever or on a picnic or to the park etc. something with you two alone. GL and hope this helps.
2007-01-04 22:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tiggs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your child is jealous. Try spending more time with just him. I think it is just a stage. When he says you don't love him tell him you are telling him that because you DO love him and you want him to do it because you don't want him to get hurt or you don't want him to hurt someone else, or what ever the reason is you are telling him what to do or don't do. My son listens better if I give a good reason. He won't settle for "because I said so" Good luck, I know this is a hard age.
2007-01-04 22:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Urbangirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is looking for attention and perhaps feels the younger child is always getting the attention.
Try to spend one on one time with your 5 yr old, at the park, or library..just the two of you.
Good Luck
2007-01-04 21:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We use time out. Even though he may yell and be mad, he needs boundaries, and needs to learn what happens when he crosses them. Most of the time, time out hurts us as parents more than it does the child. He will respect you for teaching him these things at an early age.
2007-01-04 22:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Robin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spank, time out, whatever punishment you use needs to be implemented. My three year old has started telling me I am a bad mom. I think it is mostly for attention so I tell him that what he said was not nice and direct my attention away for about 10 minutes. Maybe your 5 yr old is feeling a little left out and is acting out. Try finding the trigger point and redirecting his attention. Hope this helps.
2007-01-04 21:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by reptmd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get them activities quick when this happens
put a quick cartoon in the dvd
turn their attitude around quick
buy some playdoe
let them cut old magazines
u can think of something
2007-01-04 21:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's jealous. You have to let him know that you love him too, you have enough for both and find something special to do with just him.
2007-01-04 21:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM YES I DO LOVE YOU AND STOP MANIPULATING ME NOW STOP HITTING YOUR LITTLE SIBLING AND PUT HIM OR HER IN TIME OUT
2007-01-06 14:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by monika j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋