By success I mean obedience. We are torn on this issue. Yeah, it works at the time...but there is so much a toddler gets in trouble with that Im not sure if its worth it. We are green in this area..just dont want disobedient children. Are there any parents out there that have used spanking to curb their kids' behaviors? Has it worked or not?
2007-01-04 13:48:51 · 11 answers · asked by Shannon 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It worked on me
2007-01-04 13:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Elvis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too think spanking should be used as a last resort, and rarely. Also be consistent. Make a system of what will get you spanked (very serious offenses) and stick to it. It will work if not overused, because the child will see spanking as a special punishment reserved for actions that are "very bad," and instinctively learn to avoid them. On the other hand, if you always spank, and do it on impulse, then yes, the child will have a better chance of being rebellious because the child will see you as irrational, harsh, or violent and resent you for it. You do have to be able to sit your kids down and talk with them about some things. If you interact with them a lot in a positive way, particularly during toddler years, these "talkings-to" shouldn't be too much of a problem once your child reaches about 3 1/2 or 4. And that way, spankings can then be reserved for things that must be nipped like playing in the street, playing with dad's gun, repeating of the same known offense, etc. I think that people who are dead against spanking lack understanding of the concepts of moderation and consistency. And I do believe that people that lack these concepts will misuse spanking and probably should avoid it.
2016-05-23 04:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spanked my toddler here and there, only when he was in danger or being particularly VERY bad, doing something really really bad.
So we use it very seldomly with some success. It really only works if it's hardly ever used.
Time out for my toddler works very well. We put him in the room for about 30 seconds, he hates it...it's just as effective as spanking......but don't put them in time out too long, never over one minute.
this is a toddler we are talking about.
Your toddler is not going to be well behaved because he is a toddler,
it is a boy, right?
Try to lower your expectations a tad and don't try to have the 'perfect' child, by attempting this, you could potentially ruin his personality and character...
Don't even expect your toddler to be perfectly obedient, just let it go....they deserve to do what THEY want for a time and be a baby, you are the adult, babies can't conform to your way of adulthood very fast, they have only been alive for a couple of years. Give it a rest girl...when the child starts becoming a little man, that is when you make an impression about behavior.
2007-01-04 13:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father was very successful with spanking his oldest (that would be me).
My kids are all adults now and every one got a few pops on the bottom. Not a beating, but spankings are effective if they are reserved for the worst indiscretions. A spanking for every minor little thing soon takes the edge off of the punishment though and should be avoided.
For example: The worst spanking I ever received resulted from me setting a barley field on fire. I don't set fires anymore.
2007-01-04 13:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it does. My parents spanked me a lot as a child, and it just made want to act worse out of spite. Then again, I've known of children who's parents have never spanked them, and they're very obedient. This question may fit better in the psychology forum, though.
2007-01-04 13:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by The Doctor 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My parents used to spank me and my older brothers (I'm really pissed that its now linked to child abuse when its NOT) and let me tell you, it worked for us! My parents were the masters at discipline and we needed it. I was talking to my mom the other day and she said when I was little she though I was going to end up a criminal and I might have except her and my dad put fear into me and it WORKED. Neither me nor my brothers have ever been arrested, we had good grades in school and are wonderful people.
Edited to say that the first time they do something wrong just tell them no and why, but the second time you spank them.
Also, toddlers do know what they are doing wrong after they've been told and if the parent doesn't tell them and reinforce it then what's to stop them from pulling a pot of boiling water down on their heads?
2007-01-04 13:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No.
Toddlers are incapable of comprehending why they are being "punished" in such a fashion. All they know is that the person they love the most is hurting them. All they learn is that hitting is the best way to get our point across. Not a valuable lesson.
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2007-01-04 13:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not with success. I used a rolled up newspaper.
2007-01-04 13:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my parents.
And it worked pretty good, I turned out great. And I never had the balls to sass either one of them either!
2007-01-04 14:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by jenay672001 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never spanked any of my kids, and they are the greatest.
2007-01-04 13:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Samurai Jack 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋