Authority and spanking?

Question

Do you remember doing something bad and your parents would spank you? Do you remember how, when spanking was done right, that made you do what you were told, and even respect them? Now take a look at our children today. Even with all the timeouts, our children are getting more out of hand... Are we as a society forgeting to teach our children that we are the authority figures by putting them in time outs and trying to talk them into understanding the whys and hows of things? There is more crime (violent and non violent) than fifty years ago. Could spanking or not spanking having an effect on our children and our society?(or to put it another way) Are we trying to hard in our society to be our childrens friends rather than teach and discipline?

Answer 1

You have hit the nail on the head.

I was spanked as a kid. I turned against it in college under the influence of liberal psychology and education professors. In fact from what they said I should be a neurotic mess (I was spanked in the most "dangerous" way--on my bare fanny).

Once I had my own kids I gradually decided that my parents were not so stupid and old fashioned as I had been led to believe. I am now kind of a nutty radical advocate of spanking. I know it sounds stupid and oversimplistic--but I really think that spanking is important.

And I think a lot of younger parents are spanking more. We are just sick and tired of all the spoiled brats and the Nanny 911, etc. nonsenses.

The idea that spanking is ineffective and harmful is a myth. It is something that grew out of the failed no-spanking social experiment starting in the 1950's.

I have actually spent quite a bit of time looking at the spanking research. All the studies finding "it will destroy your child and society" are at best inconclusive and at worst deeply flawed. Yet these are promoted as fact so much by the media and pop psychologists that it is now pretty much taken as fact. Even parents who spank often feel to the need to "only spank as a last resort."

There are actually very good studies that spanking is not only not harmful, but is the best way to get kids to comply with their parent's wishes.

You can see my review of the spanking research and literature at http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-GgIFACYzfqWx8YwvtspSWVmWzA--?cq=1&p=793

Answer 2

No - As a step determine to a now 15 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous and a now eleven 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous. I surely have on no account spanked them. The bond that exists between a organic and organic mum and dad and there little ones isn't the comparable for a step determine. If we are speaking a pair of swat on the hand while grabbing for a burner on the range it extremely is one factor. yet a disiplanary spanking is a bad theory. each and every time you bodily disipline a step baby some resentment will boost. I go away the self-discipline to my husband and my step teenagers and that i've got a dazzling loving courting. Which we've had over 7 years.

Answer 3

In my opinion, there are lots of creative ways to let a child know that you are the boss without having to spank them. I have also spanked my own children. I think that the danger in spanking comes when we as parents don't choose to teach our children life lessons. We resort to spanking, and don't follow up with teaching our children. There are so many ways to teach a child to behave without having to hurt them to do it. I believe that spanking should be limited to VERY certain circumstances, and that they should never be done while you are angry. They have a place, but IMO, too often they are the first thing to be tried. I have found that consistency has worked better than anything for my children. Following through on consequences. Giving my children tools for better behavior. I do not believe that the "lack" of spanking is what's to blame for society. I believe that society has fallen apart because we have quit caring for one another. Stopping At Every Lemonade Stand is a great book if you are serious about your wonder of why our society is disintegrating.

Answer 4

Good question. spanking is tried and true disciplinary action that has an excellent track record. Being friendly works on some children, but more treacherous brats learn to manipulate the equally stupid parent into doing what THEY want instead. Sad really. I see the way some kids behave in public and I think "Man, if that had been me, I'd have gotten a spanking right there in the store."

Answer 5

Kids need the authority and love of a spanking. They resent it and are not happy with it, but they need it too. They need to know that there is a limit and when it is reached punishment is forthcoming. If you lock the child in solitary for a week or two whcih is what adults who are bad get (we call it jail or prison and it is years for adults) then one says thats child abuse. But spanking a child is a good effective alternative to locking the child away.

Answer 6

Dr Spock and his "Don't spank your children" did not work for him either. Both of his children ended up in Jail/prison before they were very old at all yet his book sold and he taught people everywhere how to raise their children. Spare the rod and spoil the child comes from the Old Testament but it still hold true today. My children have grown but they are alive and well. None of them were harmed in any way and they all still speak with us. GOD has certainly blessed us in a great way.
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Answer 7

Yes I remember it. for me it was only about 9 years ago. (I am 17) and now I work with kids in any way posable (i.e. I am a jr leader at church, working with k-2and grade. I work with the 4-H clubs, ect.) and beleve me, I see how non spanked kids act and how spanked kids act. the ones who get spanked are the most well behaved kids I know. the others are little brats that do nothing but cause trouble. I will spank my kids when needed. my kids will be raised right.

like my dad always said, "one day they will be in jail and you will be waching them from the outside. they will ether learn as kids throught spanking, or learn as adults through prison walls"

Answer 8

It's hard these days then it was 50 yrs ago because they say it's wrong to spank, it's wrong to yell, it's wrong for this and it's wrong to do that...And they wonder why children are out of control!

Answer 9

Nope I don't remember respecting my parents for spanking me. And it didn't make me do what I was told. Funny thing, I never hit my daughter and yet she pretty much did everything she was told. I maintain that a lack of intelligence leading to poor parenting practices is what has caused the kids to turn out the way they have...Or SOME kids. You have to look at the ENTIRE picuture when you site "more crime" than fifty years ago. There are literally BILLIONS of more people on the planet now than there was fifty years ago. That in iteself has a hell of a lot more to do with more crime than anything...there are millions more poor and "underadvantaged" people on the planet today than there was fifty years ago. And fifty years ago it was perfectly acceptable for a man to not only spank but literally BEAT his children as well as his wife. Men were not put in jail over beating their wives to a pulp. It was called "keeping the family in line". Police did not arrest spouses who beat their spouses. If you were married to a man who beat you and your kids you were told that that was your "lot" in life and that you had to deal with it and TRY not to do anything to make HIM unhappy. Maybe YOU would like to go back to those days but with scars on the backs of my legs from my dad's belt as well as nerve and muscle damag in my left eye from where he beat me so severely he broke my nose and part of my left cheek I'll pass. There is NO good reason to hit a child. There is only lack of intelligence and patience.

Answer 10

Aristophanes complained that kids these days are out of control, and that was 4000 years ago. Kids are as disciplined as we train them to be. Parents are in charge, and we have to take that responsibility seriously.