returns from school. he hasn't spoken to my parents about the 'issue' wanted to marry, but my mom thinks he should b/c it's only proper to at >least< have a simple conversation with my mom to tell her know 'what's up' What y'll think...should I bring it up 2-day or wait for him to propose in the summer and then he tells my parents officially!! ;) (been 2-gethe for 4 yrs)
2007-01-04 13:39:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GUYS: Is it just plain rude, annying or what if the girls' talking about engagement or to that a matter...b/c as a woman we shouldn't tell the man when or like 'hurry up' right? Just as long I know he is planning to when we returns..
2007-01-04 13:51:55 · update #1
To Cartman: Ok I read ur extra info and thanks so much...so do you think I should tell him ...____< (his name) do you think it woould be best if you told my mom and dad of our intentons and plans to marry me this year my love? Or something like that?
2007-01-04 14:06:14 · update #2
Well; anymore it's not required, necessarily, that he talk to your parents and ask their permission before you get married; but he probably should at least talk to them and let them know his intentions. It is a polite and respectful thing to do, especially since I assume he wants to have a good relationship with your family.
Since you're not officially engaged, its ok to put that off for awhile. In the meantime you can tell your parents what is going on and that he plans to talk to them once he proposes officially.
But since you are definitely planning on getting married, it would be fine for him to talk with your parents now too, if everyone's comfortable with that; especially since your mom seems to have an idea already of whats going on.
So really, there are no real rules about the whole thing; do whatever seems right to you, and remember, you want things to go as smoothly as possible between your parents and your man. It makes your life a whole lot easier. (I know this from experience!!)
Oh I just read your additional info... if you two have been talking about marriage and you know he is going to propose, don't worry about it; you can ask him one time when he's planning on it if you two talk about it enough... if you don't know, don't push him or try and rush him... either way don't talk about getting married too much, or it will annoy the crap out of him. (Also personal experience!)
2007-01-04 13:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by cartmansmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 4 years?? At this point, it's academic. Ask him (not freaking out, just plain and simple: what's your plan?) and see where he is. If he's still in school, that makes a difference. If he's a responsible man, he's going to want to make sure he has a job and a secure future before he goes dragging a fiancee along with him. And that's an honorable and respectable decision.
I'd ask him, objectively. Get a 1-year plan. What are his plans? What should you expect? Be honest, but be objective (not emotional or wiggy). It's the best way to get the job done. Good luck--
2007-01-04 13:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your mom that we are in a new millenium and men don't have to ask for permission to marry someone's daughter anymore. I would wait until you two are officially engaged and then announce it to your parents however you'd like to. Also, it sounds like your mom may have some archaic ideas about marriage, so think twice about having her help plan the wedding.
2007-01-04 13:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by bizou_bear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your mom wants him to talk to your parents first before proposing. Make sure you tell him this prior to making it official.
2007-01-04 13:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait until after he proposes to you. That way he can say to your parents "I proposed to your daughter!" as opposed to the awkward "I'm GOING to propose to your daughter!"
2007-01-04 13:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Earnesty_in_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should wait until he officially proposed because what if it doesnt go through? you would have a lot of explaining to do. but, other then that. good luck!
2007-01-04 13:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Chastons Wifey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait for him to propose, why would you want to tell him the appropriate way to propose. That's very umm...different. Let him do what he has to do.
2007-01-04 13:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait until he proposes.
Do not put the wagon before the horse. ( do not get ahead of what's going on)
Good luck to you.
2007-01-04 13:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, he hasn't even proposed to you yet? Yikes, slow down there girl!
2007-01-04 13:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just wait and she what happens
2007-01-04 13:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by Robbie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋