He asked her if she wants to have sex with him. She feels that he is one of those guys that just want to have sex with her then leave her the next day. She told me that they just started going out and when he asked her that she felt vilated. She doesn't want to tell him how she feels because she scared if he dumps her. She doesn't know what to do. What should I tell her?
2007-01-04 13:17:30 · 21 answers · asked by Babygirl111 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Any guy who pressures a girl to do something she isn't comfortable doing does not respect the girl and is not worth staying with. And if she does have sex with him this soon in the relationship, he will leave her, guaranteed - don't say I didn't say so. Any girl who isn't comfortable sharing her feelings with a guy shouldn't be with that guy. Sounds like bad news already.
2007-01-04 13:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend about this discomfort. Honestly, I do not think that you have anything to worry about, her words are nothing 1,000 miles away. Unless the girl moves to your town, or is trying to take her "messages" to drastic measures then I don't think you should act to hard about the situation. Texting her yourself can stir up unnecessary drama between you and your boyfriend. It's obvious who he loves (YOU). So, at this point, unless she's being disrespectful in full towards you then I don't think you have to worry about it. But, it is very important that you tell your boyfriend how you feel about the situation. Otherwise, it may never get better. Take care and Good Luck!
2016-05-23 04:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? I don't know why she feels violated by a question. I'm not saying she should jump in the sack with him and I am not defending him asking that question. I can't understand why she would feel so uncomfortable with that question unless she is just to immature for dating to begin with. All she needs to do is to tell him that she's not looking for casual sex and that she has no interest in having sex who can be so casual about it. She should tell him that she needs to be in a loving relationship if that is going to happen. There is nothing wrong with her saying that. That is just respecting yourself. It also sounds like she doesn't have enough self esteem if she's worried about being dumped by a man who is only in it for sex to begin with. Kick him to the curb if that's all he is looking for. But give the guy a chance to prove if he is interested in her more than just for sex! She's not being fair.
2007-01-04 13:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were in a good relationship, she should be able to talk to him about this without hesitation. If he dumps her because she won't have sex with him, then what's the point of keeping a guy like that around anyway? It's better to find out the truth about him and their relationship sooner than later. You friend has a good head on her shoulders, she'll be okay.
2007-01-04 13:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by Summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her understand that if he dumps her because she won't have sex with him then he is a bad guy and then she shouldn't be with him anyway. If he cares about her (it sounds like she doesn't) then he would wait.
Tell her that you are proud of her for wanting to wait. She should wait! Wait as long as possible. Sex can only lead to heart break when its with someone you don't trust. Disease heart break and pregnancy.
She needs to leave this guy now.
2007-01-04 13:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have a successful relationship, both parties need to be honest and open with each other. Put yourself on a pedestal because you're #1 all the time. Never ignore your feelings. If he does dump her if she won't have sex with him, well good. Chalk that relationship up to experience and you're know more in the future.
2007-01-04 13:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be asking her why she is afraid of being dumped by a guy she thinks only wants her for sex. Sounds like she really needs to work on her self esteem before she even considers dating anymore.
2007-01-04 13:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by silentscreamer 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she is scared of him only wanting to sleep with her and he is talking about those things so soon in the relationship she should probably leave him since he won't change that much.
2007-01-04 13:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by silver_storm17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not ready, she should tell him straight out. If she is practicing abstinence until marriage (or at least a serious commitment) then seh should tell him that, too. If he cares about her well-being, he won't be pushy. If he pushes, kick him to the curb. He can only use her if she lets him.
2007-01-04 13:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if all he wants is sex then she needs to dump him right away! those kind of guy are just jerks! tell her that she can find somebody better that actually cares bout her and her feelings and not just sex!
2007-01-04 13:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by Marks gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋