We dated for 2 weeks, and then I realized I didn't want to be in a relationship with him, and I couldn't stop thinking about another guy. We moved back a step to 'just seeing each other' because I told him about the guy and that I wasn't ready for a relationship. He was hurt, but is ok with how things are now. I'm not happy. I am no longer attracted to him in that way and I don't have the heart to break up with him because of how hurt he was last time we talked. Basically I'm trying to get him to want out of the relationship enough to break up with me, without being a jerk and with us remaining friends afterwards. Help.
2007-01-04 13:06:43 · 23 answers · asked by SerenityFilas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You aren't responsible for how people handle truth in their lives. The job of saving the world has been taken. You're being too nice for your own good, and that usually comes back to haunt us.
And, if he IS a nice guy, doesn't he DESERVE honesty, even if it isn't always pleasant?
2007-01-04 13:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a jerk. I've been with too many clingy girls that I try to let off nicely, but at some time you just have to say no more. It's better than you're happy without his friendship than to be miserable with him around.
Give me his email address and I will email this question to him. That should work.
2007-01-04 13:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't guarantee it but if it was me I'd MUCH rather you just lowered the boom and got it over with. So, do the two of you a favor and do what you know you need to do. It is highly unlikely that you'll remain friends "afterward" in ANY case. Have seen it happen in only one case in my looooooonnnnnnng experience.
2007-01-04 13:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about breaking his heart and "being friends". Just come clean and tell the guy: "look, I like you, but I'm just not ready to continue this relationship." And that's it....easy and greasy.
2007-01-04 13:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts less in the long run , and you get to make better and stronger relationships, whatever they turn out be, if you are just honest about what you are feeling or aren't. You have to be real with yourself first , or you won't even know those things, never mind being able to share them.
2007-01-04 13:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with this guy and tell him that you don't want to see him anymore. It's more hurtful for you to lead him on like that. Just step up to the plate and be honest.
2007-01-04 13:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by fun girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh give it up--quit being a ***** and just break it to him that it's not working for you! The longer you let it go on, the harder it will be when it finally ends.
2007-01-04 13:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Andreamy_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write him a note telling how you really feel bout this relationship. if you dont have anything else to say, e-mail me at: marksgurl101@yahoo.com and if you want i can write a note + you can write it down and give it to him because i know how to write a friendly breakup note. i hope you take my advice. and if he still doesnt understand then hes a real jerk + dumdum!
2007-01-04 13:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by Marks gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way for that to happen is for you to talk to him and explain the feelings just are gone, and even then I cant promise he will still like you, ending a relationship just doesnt usually bode well for friendship sorry
2007-01-04 13:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Adam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should probably tell the truth. if this guy really likes u that much, hell never dump u. it looks like ur goin to come out the jerk in this one. just make sure u tell him its ALL ur fault, altho that wont make him feel better.
2007-01-04 13:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋