My Teenage daughters want to change their names.?

Question

My Two beautiful daughters have just recently came to me saying they would like to be called Ja-nay instead of Jennifer, and Her twin sister said she would like to be called Nik ay. I dont understand this. They want me to sign the papers so they can legally change them. I told them how much it hurt me that they wanted to change their names that took me so long to think of.
There real names are Jennifer Lola and Nicole Bella. They told their father if they don't get the name change they will run away.
I dont know what to do i grew up in a Southern Baptist house and chose to not let my children grow up the same way. I am in no way going to let them change there names to those street names but what can i tell them to make them change their minds.
any ideas will be helpful.

i am not letting them change their names.
I would just like some helpful ideas to make them not want to.

Answer 1

suggest that they just use them of nick-names for now.

Answer 2

They're teens, teens are so lost in this world and want everything for the best.

Don't sign the document, it cannot be approved unless by you. They're going to riot against you for that, then they're obviously bad daughters.

Just wait, say no right in there faces. If they run away, they WILL regret it. Growing up on the streets or foster care is not the same as living in a comfortable home with not too many kids around or strangers, a loving mother and father, and so much more. They will be crawling back home.

+Joker+

Answer 3

This is crazy. The answer is obviously NO WAY. The job of a parent is to instill sense and responsibility, not to say yes and be liked. You're their mother, not their buddy. You say yes or no and they comply..you don't have to change their minds or make them understand.

Go with your instincts...they're not going to run away, and even f they do they'll be back in no-time missing their mommy. Thhey're probably looking for attention...call them the street names around the house for a while and the novelty will wear off!

Answer 4

Oh... the names you gave them are beautiful! And it's really courageous of you to offer your children a different life than the one you lived. Must be hard sometimes...

Anyways, how old are they?
They are probably going through a rebellious phase all teenagers are going through. The best thing you can do is stick to your opinion (because, if you change your mind all the time, they quickly learn how to get their way).
And KEEP TALKING. Explain them in a calm personal way why they can't do it, why it hurts you...
Don't yell or swear or threat, even if they yell at you. It will only make them want to push the limits even further.

I was a little punk girl myself. And now I'm glad my father never allowed me to have tattoos....
I was so mad with him in those days. I wanted a dad I could have fights with, so I did about anything to provoque him, but all he did was come to my room and say: "Lene, I'd like to talk about it..." And strangely it worked.

Bon courage! I hope things work out.

Answer 5

Speaking from my point of view, say no. They will thank you in the long term.

When they are older and have perfectly respectable families of their own with a bunch or good obedient kids and a good job and husband, they don't want to be a 40 something with a teenage streetname, they will be talked about and people would say that she was raised from the street.

Answer 6

Tell them that they can call themselves anything they want and when they turn 18 they can legally change their own names. When they get married their names will change anyway. Tell them if they really want to run away over this that you will help them pack. And be stern. They'll get over themselves. Stop being such a mushy mom. Tell their father to grow a couple and put them in their place.

Answer 7

My opinion is once your daughters are old enough make their way in the world they can make decisions such as these. The threat of them not getting their way and running away seems awful rebellious to me. I think maybe these girls need to understand they are minors and should obey rules. I have a teenage daughter and if she ever threaded me should would run away if I did not bow to her wishes, I would tell her GOOD LUCK. I hope you don't get hungry you don't live here anymore.
TOUGH LOVE WOMAN!!

Answer 8

Have you told them the story of how they got their names? Have you taken them to research what their names mean? It sounds to me like they are looking for some individuality. Maybe if they felt a little more pride in what makes their names unique and special to you, they would also feel unique and special.

Answer 9

As a child you sometimes don't appreciate things until your older.
I hated my name growing up because no one could pronounce it or read it. I'm an adult know who appreciates how special her name is and how special the people she is named after are too.
I'm so glad my mom stuck to her guns and didn't change it. They will too someday.
Rachon

Answer 10

I'm almost tempted to say let them run away, honestly.

That would really hurt me if I was in your position, honestly.

But stick to your guns and tell them no, maybe they'll let it go.......... for now. And if they don't let it go.......... let them run away. Sometimes these young girls are so stubborn and do stupid things and then they have to learn the hard way.

Sometimes the hard way is the only way.

Answer 11

From what I've read, it seems like your daughters are very immature. If they changed their names to Janay and Nikay, they would very soon regret it. When I was 13, I wanted to change my name from "Taylor Robert Koehler" to "Taylor-Robert Adam Koehler". I'm so glad I didn't. I eventually changed my name to "Robert Taylor Koehler", which I'm happy with. Tell your daughters that with names like Janay and Nikay, they will never be taken seriously as adults.