the reason being that there is lilmited space at the ceremony location but not at the reception location
2007-01-04 13:04:38 · 27 answers · asked by megdavis45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
IF you do the etiquette correctly, then yes, you can do this.
Just to be clear: It would NOT be OK do the opposite, as it would be rude to exclude any guests from the hospitality (the reception).
Your main, larger invitation should be mails to everyone to invite them to the wedding reception (simply replace the word "wedding" with "wedding reception" and that makes a wedding ivnitatoin into a receptoin invitation).
Then you insert a Ceremony Card with the ceremony information ONLY for the people you are inviting to the ceremony.
Any good etiquette book may be able to help you further, as can the sites below.
2007-01-04 19:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is completely understandable. I have received invitations to just reception before and I was not offended at all. I sure someone will get offended, but you can't worry about that 1 or 2 people who will be offended. In fact I have noticed at a lot of weddings that about 25% of the people decided to miss the ceremony and only came for the reception.
2007-01-04 13:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by Brian and Kari 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest making 2 different invitations. Some for the ones invited to the ceremony and reception then some for the reception only. Word the ceremony/reception ones something like this: "You are invited to a private ceremony followed by reception at....". The ones only attending the reception should be worded like this.." You are invited to our Wedding Reception at...." Making no reference to the ceremony at all.
2007-01-04 15:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually it's the other way around. People attempt to keep the numbers down at the reception and invite all to the church. In that situation I would verbally invite guests to the ceremony only. But in your case, not everyone attends the church service/ceremony if you are looking to keep the numbers down. If you do have limited space for the ceremony you can adjust your invitations to invite guest only to the reception which is perfectly acceptable. And for those guests you want included in both situations, write both locations on the invitations. I've never known anyone to be upset that they weren't invited to the service. So no worries.
2007-01-04 13:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by T. K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people getting married have a limited budget..and sometimes a limited number of people who can attend the reception...and you should not feel you are any different. My daughter just got married and she finally decided to have her ceremony at the place where she was having her reception...only thing is...she could not have a Catholic priest do it, so I told her...God is God, at least have a Minister of God perform the ceremony and not just a Justice of the Peace....it was beautiful...and not a lot of driving around for everyone either....good luck...lol a Mom
2007-01-04 13:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by angelcjc2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you make the split...If it's a "family only" ceremony and a reception for all then that is acceptable. However, if you invite some but not all to the ceremony then noses may get out of joint and trouble can start brewing.
2007-01-04 13:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by jackiemm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My cousin first marriage was like this....I guess there is nothing wrong with it....
but I would never do it...I would only invite the amount of people that could attend both.... than no one would feel left out....a lot of people at my cousins wedding/reception had felt slighted by not being allowed to watch the wedding ceremony ......I didn't care one way or another...but it seem to hurt my aunts,uncles, cousins ,the neighbors ,and her friends from school feelings.....(how I know I had to help prepare the reception hall before the bride and groom arrived..and I heard it all.......)
but it is your wedding..your big day...so do what you want.....it doesn't matter what others want.......
2007-01-04 13:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. You only invite the number of people who can be accommodated at both. Witnessing the ceremony is very important, then people celebrate this at the reception.
2007-01-04 23:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is if you're talking family. if you're talking friends, you can always fall back on limited seating going to family first in the ceremony. My cousin did not invite me to the ceremony and I was hurt, so much so that I almost didn't go to the reception. I know we weren't that close growing up, but family is family, and I would have liked to have been there (if not at least told he thought of me but space was limited), so be careful not to step on toes as you work out the details.
2007-01-04 13:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by Irish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you have a logical reason for doing it that way. If you haven't already gotten your invitations, perhaps you can have some saying that "you are cordially invited to the Wedding Reception for ____. And even if you've got the invitations already, you could still have a few more made. I hope this puts your mind at ease.
2007-01-04 13:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋