About 4 months ago my boyfirend (x) cheated. about an hout later he came to my house crying and told em exactly what happend.
When he told me i told him to **** off and never spk to me again. About a month went by and we started speaking again he told me that when we were together i treated him like crap and that was true, i was cold and always cancelled plans. Its been four months and im am still crazy about him i cant get him out of my head. I saw him on the weekend and he ignored me and tried to keep distance. Iw ant him back but he is so stubborn. What would you do?
2007-01-04 12:48:49 · 25 answers · asked by patrice c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hold on. YOU told him to go **** himself, YOU told him to never speak to you again. I'm not trying to be harsh here, but this is extremely selfish. You acted on impulse before you thought of what to say after your ex-boyfriend came to you in tears, begging for your forgiveness. You, on the other hand, reject his apology, and throw it in his face. Now, you're only feeling sorry for yourself wallowing in self pity, when in reality you brought the whole situation on to yourself. Just move on, because you probably aren't getting him back.
2007-01-04 15:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by Agitozecter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to examine your self by getting a complete overhaul and have people that you know and trust to give you an honest opinion about your self. You acknowledge in your writing that you were cold and cancelled plans.
So you can't blame him for cheating on you as well as giving you distance as you mention. If the table were the other way and he was the one that treated you the way he mention and some one else came along. Would you not cheat as well ?
If there is any chance of you two coming back. You have your work cut out for you as you may have a hard time convincing him that you have changed etc......
2007-01-04 21:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want the assurance from him he's not gonna cheat - he needs the assurance from you that you're gonna take care of his needs. Figure out whether or not you're willing to do that and then be honest with him about it. You're just as stubborn, it seems, so you either need to change and be honest, or let go and move on. I think he had it harder than you did because you were hurtful and disrespectful throughout the relationship, whereas he only went out and got laid, then came crying to you out of guilt. Seems like a nice guy, actually - you didn't find out from a friend 3 months later, and he was honest with you about why it happened. Open communication is the biggest thing here, so figure out if you can change, and then sit down and talk to him about what you can offer him and the things you need him to do for you. Then see if he's got anything to offer and if he's willing to accept the new you. Good luck!
2007-01-04 21:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by redfoxx_79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is never a good thing but some couples can work through it. But if it has been 4 months, plus he had cheated, the accused you of not treating him well (or well enough to his liking) then I suggest moving on.
You should want to be with someone that can be faithful to you and treat with respect and understanding.
2007-01-04 20:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by DEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want him back then call him, talk to him and do your best to explain your feelings...explain that you cant stop thinking about him and you can understand why he cheated before (it was probably b/c he felt you didnt really care about him anyway) if takes you back then great!!! this time make it a point to treat him better and see where it goes from there...if he still hates you then forget him!!! he was an idiot for cheating in the first place anyway....atleast...thats what i would do
2007-01-04 20:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~If it was me, I would forgive him cause it only happened once. Besides he did tell you the truth. And if you really cared about him you would give him another chance, but if he does it again that's when you dump him. Besides ya are both at faults so its just better to start fresh and if u do than don't bring back the past. It takes 2 ppl to make a relationship work. So its ur choice, but if I cared for the person I'll give them a chance!~
2007-01-04 20:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by ~Nadia~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make my self get over him and not want him if u treated him like crap he is smart enough i bet to not take u back for it u should be smarter to not take him back if he cheated on u. get over him and realize there are more fish in the sea
2007-01-04 20:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by Mae-Day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least he was honest with you about what he had done. And he also told you that you treated him like crap, and you admitted that you had.........no wonder he cheated....but he should have broken up with you before he did that.
You had really better be honest with yourself about how you feel about him.....not because your feelings are hurt.......because a lot of gals, when their pride is hurt, say exactly what you are saying.....but......once they get back with the guy.......they really don't want him......
2007-01-04 20:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by angelcjc2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instincts for one...Sounds like you had the right idea in the beginning...sorry to say, you will never have that full trust for him again, or can you--truly forgive and forget??? If you can, then talk to him, tell him exactly how you feel. Take it from there and good luck!
2007-01-04 20:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by Shelby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would understand him.Forgive him,but mostly you need to forgive yourself and give him the time to see the change in you.I'm sure you both learned a lot from this experience and SWEETIE take life as it comes.I'm sure you'll be ok.Take care of yourself ok.
2007-01-04 20:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by soldxelin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋