How do you deal with a parent who blames you for everything and doesn’t own up to his or her own mistakes?

Question

Any advice is helpful.

In fact, this isn't even my problem. I'm writing advice for someone else.

Answer 1

That is very hard , because they sometimes feel they don't need to admit anything to a growing child.( since they are parents) They always know the answer and they are always the BOSS.

Its sometimes best to let it go. If your friend (s) can prepare themselves for independence, Do it.... and love them from a distance..

Answer 2

Whether this is about you or not, the advice remains the same.

Start by talking with another adult, but one whom you trust. This can be an aunt, uncle or grandparent, the mother or father of a friend, a teacher, a doctor or nurse, a guidance counselor, a coach or a clergy person, if that's a part of your belief system. The key is trust. The advantage of talking with a doctor, nurse or clergy person is that these are jobs in which people aren't allowed to talk about your problems with other people, or in a way that allows someone else to identify you. But anyone in any of these positions can help you and help your parent to get help as well.

The point is that this is something that requires the involvement of at least one other adult. All that you can do is to keep reminding your friend that s/he is not responsible for everything that goes on. Some things, of course, (your friend will know which ones), but everyone makes mistakes.

Answer 3

It's not fair...but you deal with them the same way you'd deal with a little kid.

You can't change your parents so don't even try.....you can change how you react to them.

Try to stay out of their way as much as possible, try not to get into a argument with them, and talk to a counselor at your school about this....you need a support system.

Nothing stays the same forever.....soon you will be leaving and then you only have to deal with them when you want.

Answer 4

If you are getting blamed for things that aren't your fault, simply tell them they are mistaken and that you won't lie about doing things you aren't doing. It's not your job to force them into facing themselves, many people spend their entire lives not being able to take responsibility for themselves that way and there is nothing at all you can do about it - it's their own problem, not for you to worry about. Stand up for yourself and let the rest of it go.

Answer 5

one thing about becoming a parent does not come with a manual,we make mistakes. i know with my own i told them a many time not to do something but i was doing it. believe it or not even parents have to grow up too we learn as we go and make many mistakes along the way. this parent will own up eventually don't give up on them it took God to change me and and only God can help them

Answer 6

well, tell them to put in writing what the parents should own up to. Beats talking back and getting into a quarrell

Answer 7

You distance yourself love them in your heart and let them live without you for awhile. Of course you did not say whether you live at home or not. Sometimes we find that we set up the way we want to be treated unknowningly, this way you will find out where you need to change. It can be a difficult situation when it comes to fulfilling expectation, but on who's expectations yours or theirs? Know what I mean...Stay healthy, live life, and don't beat yourself up.

Answer 8

don't know the perfect answer. can only speak from experience. i just hung in there best as i could until i could escape. they're likely not gonna change, my father sure hasn't...and he's one of those who thinks he has the "best and only" answer to everything. always his way or no way, no room for other viewpoints.

hang in there. do the best you can do and don't give up. don't let their comments drag you down. keep telling yourself you're worth something and your time will come.

Answer 9

Wow, u look completely "time-honored" to me! ignore it dude, purely attempt to speak to them. yet being underestimated does have its advantages! i could advise proving to them which you're greater psychological than what they have faith you're. Do greater advantageous at school and act greater mature is the appropriate suggestion i supplies you you! ;) appropriate of success

Answer 10

i use to have tht same issue. theres honestly nothin u can do but yell back nd tell them wht theyre doin is wrong. tell dem they gotta stop takin their anger out on u. nd u need respect. nd u wont stop yellin till they give u it. or pray to god. it works. =]