my boyfriend and i have been officially dating for about a week so we're still a really new couple...........well........he likes to touch me......and not in inappropriate places.....just like my leg or my sides........it's just it seems like he HAS to touch me like all the time..........and sometimes its just not appropriate for him to be holding me in certain situations........suchas church or in front of my parents..............how do i break it to him that he needs to only touch me when it is appropriate without him thinking that i dont enjoy him touching me?????
2007-01-04 12:26:11 · 7 answers · asked by jamie_lynn_1109 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
plz help.....and when will it be appropriate for him to touch me all the time?
2007-01-04 12:27:40 · update #1
I have been married for 12yrs. There will never been a time when it will always be appropriate for him to touch you. but there are alil gestures that you and him can do to show affection in church or in front of your parents. Like hand signals or a light pat on the shoulder or back. Or a wink. I think because you are a new couple it is a lil of affection he wants to show you and alittle of him showing the world he is your man. So maybe ask him to change the touching in church to a wink or a sign of affection. Tell him your not comfortable. if he gets mad then what does than tell you about a long term future with him. Just be soft and kind and heart warming. Be sure not to blow up or make it a public display when you tell him. Maybe pull him aside and whisper that you dont feel right. Give him a lil kiss and say please for me. You know you get more bees with honey than vinger. Or something like that.
2007-01-04 12:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jo Jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just naturally touchy/feely. It's just how they are, sometimes without realizing they're doing it. Maybe explain to him that he can hold your hand while you're at church or at your parents' house, but you don't want people to get the wrong idea about your relationship this early on, so he needs to hold back on the other touching for now.
In those situations, you can always take the lead and reach over and hold his hand, then that keeps him from being able to touch you elsewhere until you let go.
2007-01-04 20:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Katasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know it makes you uncomfortable for you when he touches you all the time. You need time to get used to being touched by a man. Ask him to let you do the touching, just to let you get used to touching a man.
2007-01-04 20:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by carpathian3030 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you will hurt his feeling by telling him to take it easy in church and in front of your parents. besides if you were my daughter i wouldnt want some boy touching you in front of me in any way sorry thats just the way i am at least until i knew the boy better.
2007-01-04 22:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say that sometimes it makes you uncomfortable at times and that he needs to take into consideration your feelings if he wants to enjoy your company.
2007-01-04 20:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ud [man] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, and draw boundaries. Simple.
2007-01-04 20:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by A T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just tell him
2007-01-04 20:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by I'LL LUV RICH BOYS 4 U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋