I have an abusive mother, she has BPD and fictional disorder by proxy, I don't want to get into to many details on here about this, but basically she is out to get me and obssessed with ruining my life. I am in therapy for this, but she is not. I am now over 18 but because of certain situations I developed a physical health condition from excessive stress and was unable to work or attend school for the past year. I was stuck and had to move back home with my parents. The worse possible environment I could be in for this type of thing. I feel I was tricked into being here with promises that she had changed. She has not changed she is as manipulative as ever and now I have allowed myself to get in a situation where I am completely stuck. I have no money, I want to go back to school (my health condition has DRAMATICALLY improved, with therapy) but I do not qualify for enough loans because my dad makes to much money. Even though he will not under any circumstance help me.
2007-01-04 12:20:20 · 11 answers · asked by ? 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Are there women's shelters that I could go to? Who do I need to talk to? I have no money and no where to live. I am a smart girl and I know I could get a job fairly quickly I just need a room to stay at till I get myself of my feet. I do have a car. Do I speak to SRS? Or who to talk to?
2007-01-04 12:22:17 · update #1
That is the point, I need to get out of this situation. That is why I am asking if anyone know's where a person like me can go to be helped. It is not easy to just "pick yourself up" with no money. But thankyou for your answer.
2007-01-04 12:33:02 · update #2
I have no where to live, that is what prevents me from a job. That is the only thing, unfortunately I need money to find a place to live. You see my parents live in a very small town in the middle of the US. I moved back here because I was ill and unable to work, so I could no longer pay rent. I am now well enough to get myself back on my feet and have a job, there are none in this town. I want/am going to move back to where I was and start again, I just wondered if there were places where women can go to ge themselves back on there feet after abusive situations. I will leave and my mother will hunt me down, as I said she is obsessed with me. I cannot explain in words how manipulative. I need out, I want out and I will get out.
I can change me.
I cannot change my family.
2007-01-04 12:38:22 · update #3
Why isnt she in any therapy? When you say no money what do you mean? they dont cook your meals and let you starve?
I recommend should find your school counselor and talk to him/her about this. Or principal for that matter.
Your parents are shirking their responsibility in taking care of you and giving u an education.
2007-01-04 12:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by bronson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a very bad situation. Talk to your therapist and ask if you can be given some advice about your option. Also talk to a priest or go to school and ask about this. If you have a car then go and find a job and go to social services and ask for help. Try the Salvation Army, churches. There are a number of organization that would be able to help. Even if you have a friend that you could stay with for awhile. GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS YOU
2007-01-04 12:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom wasn't as bad as yours but my mom had psychological problems that effected my life negatively because it happened when i was trying to develop logical behavior an logic in general , an i still suffer the consequences, but I'm 22 almost 23 now an i can now understand that my mom was just psycho an it wasn't me, an i just try to develop normally now. so maybe it will help you if every time she says something or does something that makes you mad you just have to be smarter an tell yourself shes just crazy. when you were smaller you probably didn't realize it you just knew it hurt, but for now you have to just think in your head *shes just crazy an cant help it. when it happens til you can get out. that's what i did
also , FIND A NANNY JOB. look on the internet or contact semi local nanny centers. thats what i did also what you do is you end up moveing out into a family an house sitting an you get paid plus you can get a part time other job til you can get on your feet, you also get surrounded by normal people
2007-01-04 12:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by peeps you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are in a 'very bad situation', and that you 'allowed yourself to get in that situation.'
Sounds as though you could leave and get on with your life if you want it bad enough.
If your mother is the culprit, then why is your dad unwilling to help? You may trying talking to him again. Remember, if you don't run your on life, there will always be someone there waiting to do it for you.
2007-01-04 12:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there any other family members that can help? If not, I suggest contacting a shelter or church or maybe social services in a city where you want to start over. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-04 12:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try your local county welfare office for help. many churches will also help in situatuions like this. also we have "tri-county human services" or "trehab"- you would have something like this in your area, I would pull out a phone book and check your local health agencies and go from there. Possibly even a local salvation army could help....when in doubt, go to a church and speak with the pastor/priest- you would be surprised by what resources they have available to them. Just don't give up...
Good Luck.
2007-01-04 12:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by cher9498 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are alot of council run houses that could help you in your situation. your councellor may be able to help you, if not someone at the citezens advice bureau will. this situation with your mother sounds very distructive, ab you need to get out as soon as possible. apply for a council flat as soon as possible, the council have flats for people in your situation!
2007-01-04 12:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by fifs_c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider the military or a friend until you get on your feet. if your mother has BPD and is off meds or the meds are not working--you need to get out now.
2007-01-04 12:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by dulcrayon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a friend to stay with, get a job and get ur own place.
2007-01-04 15:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the way talk see your pastor or a social worker,or your doctor,nurse at school please don't stay like that it is negativity for you .you don't need that at your age so please get some positive people in your life what about grand-pa or grand-ma you must have some aunts.but let me tell you it is not your mother fault that she is sick and its not your fault either so please please get help.MAY GOD HELP YOU ASK HIM TO,GOD LOVE YOU i do .take care Hun.xo
2007-01-04 13:11:01 · answer #10 · answered by cilia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋