have tried time outs for outher things he is very smart and the punishment dosen't seem to work
2007-01-04 12:12:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
he wants to be older and mature i think maybe if you tell him if he does it again youll hug him in front of everyone at school
2007-01-04 12:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by laying-down-on-the-job 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, it is up to you. I raised four sons and each of them had their exposure to others at different ages. You have the first seven years to influence your child. What you do is going to affect him his whole life. You are the one he measures himself against. You set the rules and enforce them. You teach him what is right and what is wrong. You set the standard of conduct and if you haven't already done so, then you had better do it quick because you seem to already be losing him. Forget the timeouts, those things are stupid. YOU have to use tough love. You draw a line and you follow the same thing you demand of him. You show him that you know how to do it right and he will follow. You must lay out the punishment for misbehavior and make him understand what will happen. You must even handedly apply the punishment. Be consistent so he will always know where you stand. If you think a spanking is bad for him then I think you are wrong. Spanking a child is corporal punishment and it works. A spanking is not a beating, it is an application of punishment that is meant to cause pain. I don't mean beat him, or whip him, I mean spank him enough to bring tears. Then pick him up and hug him so that he knows you love him and give him a warning that if he crosses the line again, You will spank him again. If you fail him now, you will be the sorry one later. If you can't bring yourself to spank him, then take something away from him that will cause him to be unhappy. He must learn the risk reward principle and YOU must teach it.
2007-01-04 20:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by J. W. H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might not know the meaning of the words but he does know that they aren't allowed to be said. He also knows that they will get him lots of attention.
you need to let him know that cursing will not be tolerated. not only are the words not okay but being disrespectful and disobedient is completely unacceptable.
if you believe in spanking, i think that the next time he disobeys on the school bus a spanking would be justified.
if you don't believe in spankings i would at least take away many of his nightly activities - once he got home he would have a choice of workbooks, puzzles, or coloring.. we would not be entertaining him all night either. he needs to know that you are not happy with his choices.
make sure that all the adults are setting good examples for him as well.
take care. SD
2007-01-04 21:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a 4 year old to be using foul language he doesn't even know the meaning of, there is an adult in his life who uses the language around him. If you know who it is tell them to cool the language around your son or keep your son away from them. If the person will cooperate, they may be able to explain to your son that the language is bad words that neither should be using and both must stop.
2007-01-04 20:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Country girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is actually happening across the country and the reason is that school buses mix ages on the buses.
the younger children hear older children say bad words and then
repeat them.
when i grew up, children rode separate buses with same age rank.
anyway, u have to just keep telling your son the words are not appropiate words
tell him no and change the subject quick and give him a good dvd to watch
2007-01-04 20:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he is very smart I would probably tell him a PG verison of what the words mean since he is saying them anyways and tell why he shouldn't say them and if he says them again I take ALL of his toys away from him and if for every day that he did not say it I would give him one toy back and if he said it after he got some of his toys back I would take them all away again and tell him it starts over, eventually he will forget about the word b/c he will want to have his toys. *be sure to put them where he can't find them or get to them* Good luck!
2007-01-04 20:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by trace862004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids say anything they learn. Say some other words that could interest a four year old. Then he'll start repeating those instead of swears.
2007-01-04 20:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to show how those words are hurtful and they are bad words not spoken by good people. Try and relate the negatives with the curse words. Have you tried counselling?
http://www.affiliatehood.com/child-out-of-control.html
2007-01-04 20:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by My2cents 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remove him from the source of bad language
2007-01-04 20:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop using those woed around them
2007-01-04 20:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋