Does anyone (guy or girl) have any advice on how to keep an older guy interested in you? I'm 22 years old but I think I'm relatively mature for my age. I work, go to school, and got my own place and stuff (along with the bills). I find myself getting burned out on the college single scene and have found myself being attracted to older guys (late 20s to 30ish). I do attract them at first sometimes but it usually fizzles out after a few dates. I sometimes think it has to do with my appearance. I think I'm "cute" more than "sexy" b/c I'm kinda petite and cheerful. Would this matter to guys? Anyways, help me out with any pointers on date suggestions, makeovers, etc.
Thanks,Caroline
2007-01-04 12:07:07 · 14 answers · asked by bunnychica1984 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW, I've given up "no home runs" in this case but I don't think that's it. I don't think I'm annoying cheerful just more carefree and shouldn't I be anyways...no kids, college, good job. Anyways, any suggestions on date ideas?
2007-01-04 12:28:24 · update #1
maybe wear something more simple and monotone, no pink or those abercrombie-ish stuff...
muted-colored makeup
dont act giddy-ish, be lady-like
i hope that helps ^^
2007-01-04 12:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by deliah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I am 29, how are ya? LOL, um I dont think it has anything to do with age, you dont sound immature. If you get physically involved really early on that might lead to them losing interest, but then again you are at a different stage. I have always been attracted to women younger than me because you seem to not want to be so serious about everything ( I mean a woman gets to 30, wonders when she is getting married, having kids...um no thanks) but at the same time you might come off as too much of a "good time girl" as well...without actually knowing you or being around you though I cant tell you if you are doing something wrong....
2007-01-04 12:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 33 but i tend to be attracted to women 18-25. but for me, the main attraction is usually common interests, common attitudes, and common experiences in life..
as we get older, looks and popularity don't matter any more.. we older guys will focus on attitudes, values, life goals, philosophies. etc....
as far as things fizzling out after a few dates, well, i don't think there is anything in particular you are doing wrong. could be they just don't see things heading in the same direction..
communication is really important. make it clear what your intensions are.. some guys only want sex, while others will be looking for love, romance, friendship, long-term relationship, etc..
i know it is a silly cliche, but "be yourself".. if it works, then great. if not, then move on to the next guy.. you are better off being yourself. otherwise, the guy isn'y gonna get a fair chance to really get to know the real you..
additional info: ...ummm i just read some of your other questions. if you are getting um "benefits" from your ex-boyfriend, then most other guys won't be interested in you. guys don't usually like to share their girls. they want their full and undivided attention, love, and loyalty.. if you are having casual flings with your ex, then i don't think you are as mature as you think you are.. just my opinion.
2007-01-04 12:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will have to be mature enough to communicate on his level. "Cute" is just fine, but bubbly and bouncy may take more energy than he has in order to keep up with you. If he gets the impression that you are way too youthful it might be a turn-on for a few nights in bed, but a turn-off for a long term relationship.
Be aware that you might not have the same taste in music, movies, TV, or food. His life experiences are different than yours.
I dated a 20 year old when I was 43. We had fun. I felt young when she was at my side. She felt mature and sophisticated when she was with me. But the gap between us was too great. Eventually we had to go our own ways. We didn't fight, just drifted apart.
Sometimes these relationships can work sometimes they cant. You just have to take your chances if that is what you want.
2007-01-04 12:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by John H 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
real give em proper attention u know u are not supposed to leaqve the whole work for the dude some guys dont like that ,go out of your way and some things he didnt u as a girl could do to winn his trust,unless he is an immature guy he wouldnt understand the importance of what i just said
2007-01-04 12:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take an interest in thier occupation and hobbies, so you have something to talk about, and it's not purely a physical relationship. Always ask them how their day went.....
2007-01-04 12:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by ilovebuttonmoon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are very lucky to be a girl, finding a guy is not your problem but finding a guy that is not tring to use a younger girl is. Just keep looking and you will get what you want...just becareful!
2007-01-04 12:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by utahbugtussel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you cant stop your period. Just tell him that your not feeling well and you don't feel like doing any thing. If he doesn't understand then hes not very nice....
2016-05-23 04:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you keep him interested by your personality --- if you connect you connect
my lady is about your age and she interests me just by being herself --- its long distance so sex is not a real factor
2007-01-04 12:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think any guy would love a younger girl!! if your hot then yesss hes intrested if you not really good looking then no!!
2007-01-04 12:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋