Why do some women act like their is a deadline to getting married?

Question

GRRRRR!..........This topic makes me want to punch a wall! Marriage is something people should not rush into no matter how long the couple are together. Do women act this way because of family, and peer pressure? If people happen to question the relationship, it is none of their business anyways!

Answer 1

women live in a fantasy world and all they care about is how they look to their other girlfriends....

they just want to talk on the phone about how they're getting married and are so completely in love.
and throw a big bitchy wedding.
makes you wanna puke......

if they love you, they'll realize it's important for you to know when you are ready.....
but also, if you've been together for a long time, maybe the girlfriend would be right to push marriage a little bit.

Answer 2

Marriage should never be rushed. But at the same time, we women aren't getting any younger. Our clocks continue to tick and we have a deadline as to how long we are able to reproduce. If the man we are dating is not serious about getting married, then why would we put any more time/effort into the relationship? We need to move on so that we can find someone who feels the same as we do and have the prime opportunity to have a family together.

Answer 3

There is a time when a woman feels like the relationship should progress to marriage, and if it doesn't she has to question if it ever will. Some women are fine with cohabitation without marriage, but some are not - and for those a relationship has to regress or end if it doesn't go forward. You're right that it shouldn't be anyones business except the two people involved, but the people who usually push for a couple to marry are the people that will catch her if your relationship falls apart - so her happiness is their business. I can't speak for others, but marriage has nothing to do with peers, family or society but more to do with security.

Answer 4

Marriage is a traditional sign of ultimate commitment to a person. Some women want to feel and know that their partner is ultimately commited to them. May I add that there are men out there too who have been let down by women who do not want to get married. It works both ways.

I agree that marriage should not be rushed into. But this is where communication comes into it...to avoid the need to punch walls, people should talk to their partners and let them know that they do not want to get married in the near future for whatever reasons. In fact, couples should talk about where they see their lives and relationships going...what their aspirations and intentions are.

Answer 5

I ruined my last relationship in exactly that way! I regret it so much but I was going on what I thought was the natural progression of a relationship. I met boy, liked boy, went out with boy, loved boy, sex, sex, more sex, move in with boy, and then I wanted commitment....marriage...children, the whole nine yards. It was basically a combination of family and media. I thought that was the way love went. If you loved someone you got married. But I rushed it instead of reveling in the wonderful relationship that I had at the time. We had moved in with each other 6 months after we started dating and lived together for a year before he told me he wasn't ready for a serious relationship and he wanted to experience other women. Sitcoms and movies don't count for REAL relationships and love doesn't always end in wedding bells.

Answer 6

The whole purpose of dating is to have fun at first - and then to find a mate. It gets to be almost like a race - marry the good guy before one of you screw things up, because then you need to start over - finding someone you like to spend time with - spend all of the time and then marry. Women look at the fact that if they want a couple of kids, they should start having them in their early 30's at the latest - because after that, you are just old. No one wants to be the oldest Mom in the room. It goes on and on from there. Sorry - but there sort of is a race.

Answer 7

Is your g-friend pressing you or others? Most girls are told as children to get married when they grow up, have a family and life will be complete. And the media images of marriage and relationships sets us up too. Family and peer pressure would only make me want to do the opposite.

Answer 8

marriage is symbolic and important to women. almost all women want to get married and have dreamed about what their marriage is going to be like. to women, marriage means commitment and fidelity. marriage is a promise. its when two people agree to spend the rest of their lives together. thats really important to women. no woman wants to spend the rest of her life scared that their partner will one day leave or break up with her. so, women act like their is a deadline to getting married because marriage is very important to them and they feel like they would be missing out if they dont get married as soon as they can

Answer 9

Because they don't want to waste their time waiting; especially, when they want children. Women can have healthy children at certain age only, in case you're not aware of it. Their biological clock is ticking, honey.

In any case, no relationship should be rushed. First comes friendship then comes love.

Answer 10

a lot of women see marriage as a time that you can finally settle down and relax with the person you love. an yea women think of marriage as something they have thought of since they were 3 years old, its something big to them. also women see there biological time ticking away to have children too and lots of them believe in marriage before kids.