How do I the in-home childcare provider get an 8 year old to use her manners?

Question

Her mom doesn't make her use them at home. I know I am short, but I am 28 years old. I look like a teen, but am an adult, so I feel the child needs to respect that.

Answer 1

you are very right, talk to the mom about teaching thier child manners and explain that you require that from a child. otherwise they will find themselves on timeout alot

Answer 2

Talk to the mom and tell her that while enjoy the child's outgoing attitude (or something else positive) that you do expect to be treated a certain way. And then tell the mom what the problem is...does she not say please and thank you? Does she not mind you? Explain to mom how you follow her guidelines as the caregiver, but that you have in-home guidelines that need to be followed as well.

If she (or if the mom) doesn't comply, then give the mom a week's notice to find a new caregiver. The child is undermining your authority and the other children see this. If this child gets away with things, the others will soon follow suit. Good luck!

Answer 3

If the mother does not make the child use her manners then she's not, a child only listen to the head,is there a father in the home? if not that's it . if the father is in the house then there just no time for the child the father at work all the time an the child just Acton out for sometime from one of the audit's.the child most be the only child.

Answer 4

I would word up the mum first what manners you wish her daughter to comply with and see if she agrees. if she does, then, have a conversation with the daughter in front of the mother so that she understands that her mum is on YOUR side.

Tell her that while in your care she must follow your rules and explain what you want:
e..g must use please & thank you, may i leave the table etc.

Then when she doesn't use her manners remind her, and if she refuses ignore her. Children learn from 'logical consequences'. If for example you are having lunch and the other kids say "can i have desert please" they will have desert. If the problem child misses out she will soon learn that manners are essential for her to have fun. In order to make this work, encourage manners from the other children in all areas (which is good for them anyway) so that she learns to join in.
For example you might say, "ok who wants to go to the park", to which they might all reply me!!! then you can ask all of them for their manners.
she might be more prepared to do it if everyone else is doing it.

after a while, you won't have to be quite so anal about it as hopefully it will have become a good habit.

Answer 5

With my children, I do not respond until I hear it the way it sould be said. If they start to get really worked up, I remind them with "I can't hear you". Only when they have used their manners do I then respond and give them what they are asking for. You will need to prepare this child first, and teach her what is expected first, and then after some reminders, try using this approach. Her mother needs to be on the same page with you. Let her know what is expected when her child is your care.

Answer 6

join the real world, 8 yr. old is a stubborn age, just keep on telling the child to have manners--
get the child in activities that promote manners

Answer 7

i assume i'm puzzled, if your fiance makes alot of money, why do you pick suggestions with childcare? He could be helping you with that. Any money you could help to hold homestead each and every week is properly worth it. i do no longer think of there is the different application different than welfare, yet like i discussed above, why could you pick that if your destiny husband makes stable money? choose you the superb.

Answer 8

Don't respond to her until she uses her manners as requested...
Example... Girl: I want a drink.... You: May I please have a drink?
You say it to her so she understands what you expect. If she doesn't respond, or doesn't say it wait until she does. Make sure it does not affect her health or anything though.