My brother told me the other day, that he ran into one my my x-boyfriends at the bar. My x asked him if he wanted to see his new baby. the baby was out in the car. I wasn't there so all i know is what my brother told me. I guess my x just came in for one shot, he was probably in there for five minutes. I don't know if he left the car running or not. bottom line is, I don't know wether i should tell the baby's mom. If it was my kid I would want to know. The bar isn't that far away from their house, but I still see this as an unnecessary risk. I also worry that he left the car running. If he did someone could have jumped in and stollen the car and the baby. If he didn't leave it running then the baby was probably freezing. The baby is only 5-6 months old. the Dad (if you can call him that) is a loser. He has been in and out of jail his whole life. he was "in" when the baby was born. He is still on paroll, and will be for a long time. Should I tell the mom?
2007-01-04 11:39:18 · 20 answers · asked by jelly 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I just want to add that we all get along, so in no way would I be telling the mom to make them break up or get into a fight. I am just worried about the baby. and like i said i would want to know, I just dont want to stick my nose in where it doesn't belong.
thanks
2007-01-04 11:41:24 · update #1
You may get along really well and not want to cause trouble but, what you described is child neglect and abuse. There are laws against leaving dogs and children in cars here in Australia and I can't believe your great country doesn't have the same. Babies and dogs die in cars when they are left unattended. In your situation the baby could have frozen to death, in Australia they can cook in the high temps we have here. With dogs and babies that are so small they can die in a matter in minutes. I would tell the mother and explain the dangers, if you catch him leaving the child in the car again I would go straight to child services and have them remove the child from their care, a life is far more important than someones feelings.
You may feel uncomfortable about this but a child's life could be at stake and you would feel even worse if something were to happen to that child because you did not speak up.
Best of luck.
2007-01-04 12:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by Curious1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
EASY! Of course tell the mother! You and your brother should also report this to child services. Seriously. If he has done it once he will do it again. Only the next time he may leave the baby in the car longer! Obviously he should not be a parent and someone needs to protect that baby. Plus that situation also shows that he sees nothing wrong with drinking and driving. Not to mention doing it with his baby in the car. He doesn't think about the babies welfare or he wouldn't have done that. Please tell child services. That baby needs someone to help him/her.
Please please please call child services! If you don't know the number call information or look it up. It's the best thing you can do for that poor baby!
If you don't do anything about it and something happens to that baby because of his/her father, how guilty are you going to feel? Think about that!
2007-01-05 00:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by Positively Pink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would say something to someone about it!
Leaving a child in the car, running or not, is dangerous and then add to the fact he was drinking and driving!!
I know you said it's not far from the house but an accident could occur anywhere!
That's child endangerment right there!
Either you or maybe even your brother should at least mention it to the mom. Your bro might be better since he was there to see it.
2007-01-04 21:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by Smitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about a friendship with that guy he's a dog for doing that and the mother has every right to know that her child was in danger regardless if anything happened or not. He needs to get in trouble if not by the police then my the babys mother.
2007-01-04 21:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by Louisa F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut instinct. I would want to know too so if I was you I would definitely tell the mother of the baby. What if he does it again and something happens to the baby, are you going to feel alright about that if you could have stopped it ?? I would definitely tell.
2007-01-04 19:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Bunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell her and next time call her so she can see for herself and catch him in the act..., If he doesn't want to act like a responsible adult he shouldn't be looking after a child. It may cause an agruement but one that is well due... Its not about the adults its about what is best for the child and the childs saftey
2007-01-04 19:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by angelicrulz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust your brother, and believe that he's telling the truth, and not just stirring things up, you should definitely tell her. I would definitely want to know.
Just don't say, "This is what happened". Say that you heard something, and you're not sure, but you thought she should know.
If it is true, that is very dangerous, and that dad needs to be very careful--that or the mom needs to be careful who she lets watch her child--even if it is the child's father.
2007-01-04 19:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES. Tell the Mother. She has a right to know what is happening to her child. Go with your gut instinct on this. It is not your responsibility if the relationship breaks up, it is HIS!
2007-01-04 22:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell the mother and have your brother verify the story. At least you did what you could to prevent this from happening again.
2007-01-04 19:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by micg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her, yeah it was only five minutes this time, but wat about the next time, and the time after that? she may choose not to do anything but if i was that childs mother i would want to know if and when my child was in danger, who knows what could happen, i say better safe than sorry, and how would you feel if something did happen to the baby and you hadn't told her?
2007-01-04 19:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋