I am 49 divorced and i find it hard to trust men, he left me after 23 years. I have a lot of love to give, but don't want to get hurt again. my kids are grown and i don't want to die alone. I realy have trouble with trust issue. When a man looks at me all i can think of is want does he want, will he hurt me and then leave me.I don't know what to do.
2007-01-04 11:32:34 · 12 answers · asked by carpathian3030 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ah babes what a question to ask
all most people want is to be loved and to love in return
to share our lives with some one whom we can trust and be secure with
but in a marriage we tend to take each other for granted
and get bored ,,i know ive been married 28 yrs
and the human race ,by far from being perfect wants to feed our ego's and lust after the day's of our youth
the bills ,,working to hard,,, coming home tired,,,
doing the same old routine,,
im 50 yrs old so i guess ive a idea where your feelings are at this moment in your life
but i want you to pay attention to my next sentence
you only get one life,yours like mine is running out fast,,we aint no spring chickens no more
how many years we have left is for the gods to decide
but while we are alive live every day if it was your last because one day it will be i work at a hospital and people die every day much younger than us get out ther gal and enjoy what time you have left
if some one comes along dont be negative go with the flow of life
hope you meet some one who's worthy of your love
2007-01-04 11:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by roy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the way you feel I was married for a shorter period of time than you were but Hurt is Hurt.
It sucks to put your 100% into someone then discover they were'nt worth 10% and all i can say is If you want love You have to Keep trying and sometimes you lose but others you win and even more rarly you win BIG !!!!
You have to start thinking like what am I willing to give, or how much of myself can I put out there to risck??? Its a whole new world since you last dated hun so give it a chance and promise your self to not be comitted to one thing untill you are certain that you can be comitted to that one thing
2007-01-04 11:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by blackplatnium007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you. 23 years is a long time.
Maybe you need more time to process what you've been through unless you think getting back to dating right away would be better for you?
You could try inter-net dating? Match.com seems pretty legitimate and has lots of men in their 40's and 50's. Whatever you do take your time, nurture yourself and realize you've dealt with something really difficult. Good luck to you.
2007-01-04 11:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by BRENDA 1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a few of us "good ones" left. I have been trying to find a lady who wants one of the good ones. So, in answer to your question....yes you can find a good man....they are out there. Your trust issue is something that you are going to have to work on. Whoever you end up with should be supportive of that fact and do whatever it takes to show you that you can trust him. Just communicate!!
2007-01-04 11:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by bryan c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
23 years is a long time to spend with one person.Dating for you is probably somewhat fearful because at least you knew what you had now you have to start from the beginning and the beginning was over 23 years for you and times has changed a lot.My suggestion is to meditate on what life and a relationship have to offer you at this point in your life
2007-01-04 11:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try a dating think that is called life mates they will match you with some one with the same intrust you have i see it on t.v. some times. i shore you will find some one really nice i have a friend who did and they have been together for 8 years and still to gether at less that,s a start. good luck.
2007-01-04 11:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try assembly up with him for an casual date and ask him...head to head perfect thanks to get answer. supply him great thing concerning the doubt til you already know for particular. If that were his female then she might want to have both requested "who's that this" or what the F***. in case you call and consistently get voicemail i might want to be worried-that could want to signify it dont favor to respond to if she is there. what do you receive to lose in case you meet him for dinner?
2016-12-01 20:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry you must allow yourself to be vulnerable if you are to fall in love again --- and good guys are out there
2007-01-04 11:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are good men out there, and i am sure you wont die alone sweetie, good luck!
2007-01-04 11:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by Brian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-04 11:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by . 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋