I need help about raising a child and plz don't judge me!?

Question

I need take a class about raising a child because I got pregnancy at young age at 16 and I am struggling because I feel like Im not doing everything right but my daughter is a good girl because my dad and my step mom help me a lot. I need take class so I can learn more about better role model for my daughter and all that. My mom did gave me a lot of love but her role model is not too good and I learn some in wrong way and I don't want my daughter to follow like me or my mom. I have very bad habit of saying s word and Im trying my hardest to stop saying that and stuff like that so that why i thought if i take class that will help me realize more things and be better mother to her. What name of class should I look up in internet and I live in memphis, tennessee so I really need eduation to how to be better parent and pls don't judge me of what I said and i really love her very much!!

Answer 1

Don't try and concur the world in one day, you will only get depressed. Meaning - you want to change so many things about yourself, it becomes stressful. Just try and change one thing at a time, master it, then move on to the next. It may take awhile, but you will come out on top. Your very young, you life is not ruined, just more challenging, you have plenty of time to get yourself on the right track.

Good Luck

Answer 2

No matter what age you are being a mom is the guiltiest job you will ever have. However it is the best too. I would say that you are on the right path just wanting to change your ways maybe you should not only take a class but minimize the exposure she has to the behaviors you don't want her to pick up. It will be very hard but if you could be out on your own you would be the only one influencing her. She would not be exposed to your mothers habits that you don't like. Because even if you change your mom may not. I had to do the same thing with my son he is very young but I knew the minute I got pregnant that I was going to be the generation in my family to break the mold that my parents had set up for us. They were pretty good parents but ya know there are just somethings you know you want to change. I know in my case I am a single mom and I just want to give my child all I can from life. And make sure most of it is as positive that I can make it.
Here in Columbus , OH there is a group called "The art of positive parenting" A friend of mine took it and it teaches you not only about ways to positively discipline. But also how to make you a better parent. I hope this helps. Let me know if I can help anymore.

Answer 3

Honey what a lucky little girl to have you for a mom. You are so caring and that is half the battle. I have worked in a school district for 22 years and raising children is never easy. When my daughter was growing up we read together everyday. That is such an important part of raising children. Just be the best you can be and your daughter will be just fine. The key word is love. Love her always and be consistent. If you tell her you're going to do something or not do something stick by what you say. By the way I'm an old Tennessean too. I was born and raised there, and still have all my family there. Good luck Darling and I'll be praying for you and your little girl.

Answer 4

I don't know about parenting programs online or in your area but you can check out what some of the others have said like the YMCA, and such but I get my help from my community health center, the place where I take them for their shots. The nurses there were a wealth of knowledge and got me in touch with a number of resourses that I could use. I don't have the support of a mom being an orphan and I am not close to my MIL so I had to come up with another way. My best friends mom gave me the best advice I have ever had, and it was, you are the mom and if it feels wrong to you then it is wrong, if it sets off your mommy radar then you pay attention to it and you will be fine....and I have paid attention to my mommy radar as it has never let me down now. Good luck and you will be fine....have faith in yourself and the rest will all fall into place.

Answer 5

I don't know about classes but I think you can handle it like some had said you are trying so you should give your self credit and the ones that judge just ignore them because they know nothing about you and well from experience having where my parents got a foster baby girl and I take care of her some and she calls me 'nana' or 'nini' not sure what she means but yeah I can some times figure out what she wants so what you need to raise her can come from yourself because I never took any classes I learned from friends around me and other mothers. And I get told by a lot of people that I will be a great mother because of how I treat little ones. I love babies so much and little kids. It's great and the foster baby we have is slowly learning to crawl its great :) But I'm not having a kid tell I am married. So I can make sure I give them the best life I can. You can still do that too and with help from friends and family thats for sure you can. I have faith in you and if you want to talk to me you can because any one can from here. I try my best to give the best advice I can and if I don't know I see if any one I know can.

Answer 6

I don't know if there are classes available that teach you anything about being a good role model. The only ones I've heard of are those that teach you basic baby care (i.e. diaper changing, nursing, etc). I'd find a good mommy group (myspace is good) or network with a few moms your age or older so you can ask questions one-on-one and get advice. You sound like you really want to provide the best for your baby, so you're on the right start. Good luck!

Answer 7

It sounds to me like you're a wonderful mother. You know when you need help and you're not afraid to ask for it. All parents want their kids' to be better then they are. Call the local Human Resources office and they should be able to put you in touch with someone about the classes or call the local WIC office.
Try substituting Sheep instead of the other S word. It'll make it easier to break yourself from the habit because you have to stop and think about saying it first.

Answer 8

The fact that you want to be a good mom says a lot. There are probably planned parenthood classes in your area it is just a matter of finding them. Call your local courthouse and ask if they have a dept for Women, Infants and Children. (also known as WIC) They might know of where you can go for something like that, it also can get you aid for things like diapers, formula, etc... Good Luck, you're starting out right by wanting to do it. That's more than I can say for a lot of mothers I know that have everything they could possibly want to give their children, but just don't care. You should be proud of yourself for feeling that much love for your daughter.

Answer 9

I think you are going to be a very good mother--because you obviously love and care a lot. You also recognize things you don't want to do.

I think Moms actually inherently somehow know a lot of what to do. And the next best thing is the advise and expereince of other Moms.

The classes and books can help sometimes--but the most important things are the above.

Answer 10

wow, at least u are honest.
at least u got your parents helping ya out
u need to get child support from the father of this child
also before the child grows up too quick
u dont need to take classes to raise a child
just give the child love and dont cuss around the child
read to the child and teach the child to read and brush teeth,
the normal things u were taught as a kid