My bf and I have been dating for almost a year. We both are recently divorce and have been discussing marriage for a few months now. I don't know how much time should pass before I expect a serious sign of a life long commitment.
2007-01-04 11:23:35 · 15 answers · asked by Graham 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
hubby and i got engaged after a month and got married 1 month 1/2 later.. be 2 yrs in Feb and happy as we both ever been.. both of us been married 4 times before.....good luck
2007-01-04 11:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by bowpeep 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sweetie what is the rush? I am in a marriage of 10 years so far but we dated 5 years before we got married. There's never enough time to learn new things from your boyfriend, spouse. Be safe and wait, besides you just got out of a relationship that was not very healthy I'm guessing so why? jump into another one so soon?~ Take some time for yourself. If you are both ment to be, it will happen sooner than later~
2007-01-04 11:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by YO~NO~FUI E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We dated (including living together) for five years before getting married. I would have preferred shorter, but that's the way it worked out. My husband had had a previous bad marriage and wasn't in a hurry to remarry.
If you're both recently divorced, I can't understand why you would be in a hurry to rush into another marriage. Less than a year of dating someone--especially on the rebound--isn't very long. Better to take the time to understand what went wrong with your previous relationship and what reason you have to believe this one will be better.
2007-01-04 12:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by EQ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's really a definite answer to your question. You could only be dating a little while or a long time before an engagement happens. My advice to you is to be patient and when you both are ready emotionally and of course physically it will happen. It would suck to have to go through another divorce so make sure that you and your boyfriend are doing it for all the right reasons and of course for the simple fact that you two would want to spend the rest of your life together. Hope this helps a little bit! :)
2007-01-04 11:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kaylie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being that you have already been in a marriage that didn't quite work out take you time, really get to know him. It is great to be in love and date, but as you know marriage is a whole new ball game.
Don't rush to the alter, I generally think around three years is reasonable, by that time you have seen many sides of a person, you have probably had a fair share of opportunities to battle and make up. You have settled into routines and really got ton to figure out your significant others personalty.
A year is often not enough to make a life long commitment, everything is still new and exciting.
2007-01-04 11:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by smedrik 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, there isn't a set amount of time that is out there for people to get engaged. This person i went to high school with got engaged after a month!! She didn't know the guy before hand either. My brother got engaged 3-4 years after they started dating. My cousin just got engaged and i know him and his now fiancee were dating for a few years. But there is no set amount of time.
But if you do need a time....i say a year and a half-2 years. That gives you enough time to get to know one another, to make sure that you can make it together.
2007-01-04 11:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a recent devorce, you can't epect the same swept of your feet courtship you might the first time around, I'm sure you appreceate there are issues and fears that he, and you each have to deal with. Why do you want to get married, do you really LOVE this guy (you never indicated your feelings) or are you just afraid of being alone. If you've discussed marriage, Then you must know his feelings on it, If this isn't in line with what you want, then you might want to think about moving on.
2007-01-05 03:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by al b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone expects something different. I've been with by bf for almost 5 years, I love him dearly as he does me and my daughter, and we are expecting a child. We are all very happy where we are at and I don't need a ring or a piece of paper to know that! I think it depends on you, only you know what it right for you.
2007-01-04 11:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by starrinights 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would say at least a year to make sure you REALLY LOVE each other but now a days it more like a month and then you get married but times have changed
2007-01-04 12:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by xxxskierxxx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Expect nothing or else you're setting yourself up for disappointment.
Unless you've got a back up guy in the wings, just bide your time with your current boyfriend and hopefully all will turn out as you hope.
2007-01-04 11:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recently divorced people should wait at least a year after divorce is final.
2007-01-04 11:31:44 · answer #11 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋