i think its all over between my bf and i. its been hard the last twelve months, no sex,secrets and not been honest with me. i have been on this site seeking advice the last month or two.some has been helpfull and some not ,i think my head is sorted now but my heart is a different matter,that will take time to heal. im 42 but still feel about 32 and im scared what the future will hold for me. i really tried to make it work ,putting his needs before my own sometimes and never getting anything back. Im tired and unhappy and in a way im glad its over. he can have his own time now to do what he wants(which he did anyway) have his friends to himself. no more of his secrets or hiding things from me.love him very much but ifeel asthough its time to call it a day. im dead calm though and not at all tearfull is this normal or will i fall to pieces when i have a drink. want to show him i can make it through without any arguements or outbursts which i tend to do,cant trust myself sometimes.
2007-01-04 11:23:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good for you..who needs a man to make us complete.
2007-01-04 12:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will feel very low over the next few days, there will be tears and the feeling that you are mourning. Sad songs will make you think about what you have lost but be strong.You will feel very lonely and now is the time to have friends or family close by. Life does go on and you will find love again when the time is right.
2007-01-04 19:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through a really bad time with my ex and i felt exactly the same as you when we split for the last time. You will go through different stages and end up upset when the numb period is over. Just try to remember why you split up in the first place and how happy you can be without having to worry about the lies etc. You will get through it. Stay tough!!!
2007-01-04 19:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Leanne O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel the same way with my ex. I am starting to feel the calm myself. I guess its just part of the acceptance that your relationship is over and that you can now move on. I don't think you will fall to pieces when you have a drink. I think you will be just fine!!
2007-01-04 19:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by bryan c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could be in shock hun, I was like that the first few days of splitting with my fella, then I got sad (crying) then I got angry (how can he do this to me etc.) now I'm moving into acceptance and can see that he wasn't right for me and I'm much better off without him. But not once have I contacted him and that I'm proud of. Let him miss you babe, there's something better just around the corner :o)
2007-01-04 19:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"when i have a drink"
...that and one other is the only part I can find to say something to, really, and that is... don't.
If you're concerned you'll say something or do something you don't want to while drunk, don't get drunk.
The calmness is normal. It comes and goes.
2007-01-04 19:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by dagorath1123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HAVING RESOLVE IS GOOD, BUT YOU'LL END FEELING UP AND DOWN FOR A FEW MONTHS YET, HANG IN THERE
2007-01-04 19:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by SCOTT B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you are in the eye of the storm......
Are there children involved ???
If not, you may just be so relieved it is at last settled.
Good luck with your new life...
M : )
2007-01-04 20:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by mesmerized 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋