I have been dating a guy for a 1 yr and 1/2 and our relationship is great except for a few things. The biggest issue is with his friends. He, for some reason, thinks that I don't like spending anytime with him and his friends. He thinks I'm anti-social, and then when I do spend time with his friends he will complain that I was too quite or that I should have mingled more. The truth is, I have no problems with making friends, I'm very social and I am usually the life of the party..but for some reason when I am with him and his friends I feel sooo uncomfortable (probably because he is expecting so much from me). I can't really be myself and it makes me look like I am the person he THINKS I am! He's always saying how he is always hanging out with me and my friends and he feels it's unfair. but I don't care if he is with me at all times-unlike him.He wants his friends to be who I hang out with. What can I do? he's 30, and I'm 25 and I'm sick of this childness already! what can i say 2 him
2007-01-04 11:17:02 · 8 answers · asked by BUTTERCUP 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He shouldnt be forcing his friends upon you. At least I dont think so. Its absolutely okay to have different likes and dislikes. (Its kind of healthy, itd probably be boring if you guys were the same)
2007-01-04 11:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of a relationship is doing things that you both like to do. I think you should tell him how it makes you feel. It sounds like he has expectations of you or how you should act around his friends. That is putting pressure on you to do something you already don't want to do. Be honest with him. I would suggest that you be with his friends some of the time and try to get to know them. If that doesn't work pick up a hobby. Then when he is with his friends you have something interesting to do. If you are thinking about marrying this guy it would be wise to try to hang out with his friends once in awhile. They will be around for a long time.
2007-01-04 19:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you dont like being pressured into being the life of the party and to back off a little. tell him you'll act how you are in front of whoever.
or just tell him exactly what you said here. if he doesnt except the fact that your being honest with him, then im sorry, but i dont think hes right for you.
(or you could have him hang out with the girls for a while. see how he acts=) )
hope i helped
Resa~
2007-01-04 19:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adios Moochacho !!!
2007-01-04 19:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by SCHMUCKY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Dont try to be what you are not. Tell your boyfriend what you think.
2007-01-04 19:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by erickcnls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe what you just said to us? and if he can't accept that then maybe he's not the right person for you.
2007-01-04 19:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect. him respecting you. if not, kid him away. he is the one in the 30's
2007-01-04 19:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you just said to us....Good luck!
2007-01-04 19:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋