my bmi is normal, but its on the high end and im a little heavier, but not overweight. is that a problem for guys? i havn't had a real lasting relationship yet.
2007-01-04 11:08:36 · 24 answers · asked by ♥♫☺bee yourself☺♫♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Real relationship doesn't arise out of being slim or super slim. If you have a decent body and decent looks and a good attitude and a great person to be around and unprejudiced and social and fun, that's what really counts. Atleast that's what I look for in somebody. Good looks only keep the relationship fun during its initial peak times. If you need to survive a relationship, you need good character.
Love at first sight won't survive if you can't stand the person's character after a few.
That doesn't mean, if you overweight many would want to stay.
Keeping yourself fit and healthy tells others, that you are someone who takes care of yourself well and willing to be healthy for your sake and your children.
If you have a good BMI and work towards keeping it in the range and have a healthy attitude, a good person would never hesitate to be with you.
There are guys who may just put up with a slim trim beautiful person for a while. But then again, it's only for a while. There is only a limit on when they'll blow , and decide to leave the relationship, if the person is impossible to put up with.
If you work on your character traits and keep yourself healthy, you'll find someone you will appreciate you for that.
It is so true that "Beauty is only skin deep". Don't get me wrong, a beautiful person with good character is nothing that nobody doesn't want.
2007-01-04 11:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by thewiseone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a problem for some, and not for others. We all have our own preferences. I prefer the slim woman, being only 150 lbs, a heavier gal, wouldn't suit me.
However, if the woman was attractive enough, a few extra pounds, wouldn't put me off.
I like slim, not skinny, when you have a girl in your arms, the last thing you want, is to be holding a bag of bones. A little nice package, is the best.
So don't worry, there is a guy out there for you. If it bothers you so much, try a little more exercise and a light diet. Just don't go crazy with it. As you are in the right range, a few pounds, should do the job.
Personality, counts more than a few extra pounds. Pounds can be lost, but it's not easy to add a personality.
2007-01-04 11:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what gets into these girl's heads that make them think "Super Slim!" is sexy ... it's really not. Speaking from a guy's perspective: I don't want bones! I want some meat please!
You're a little heavier, but not overweight? In my opinion, that's perfect. We all have our preferences. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My girlfriend the other day tells me "I'm fat."
She has a little itsy bit of a belly that sticks out when she wears tight pants. It's so smooth, and I kiss it all the time. Do you know what I told her? "Grr! What? You're NOT fat baby." *Kisses Stomach* I think she's the cutest thing in the world.
Don't worry about your weight so much unless of course you're morbidly obese. Very Slim or Fit is not the norm, average is the norm and us men, believe me when I say: We Love Meat. ;)
2007-01-04 11:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tommy_Turrican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being fit is definitely an advantage when meeting new people. u can't be attracted to someone emotionally until you become attracted to them physically. but if you have a relationship already then it shouldn't really matter that much. cuz you've become attracted to each other on an emotional level. they've accepted the way you look already. and as for not having a lasting relationship. just look at what went wrong it the relationship. was it the guy. was it you? non-compatible personalities?
there are some ppl who are attracted to women who are on the heavy side so don't worry. you'll find someone who'll find you attractive as you are.
2007-01-04 11:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like anything in life, you have to find a person who is like you. If you havent had a lasting realitionship yet maybe your setting your standards to high. Or maybe you just need to give yourself more time. I had alot of short meaningless realitionships when I was in my teens. I finally found the right girl when I was 23.
2007-01-04 11:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by luker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As far as I am concerned all guys like something different I think there are guys who like rail thin and guys who like some curves There is someone out there for everyone Feel good about you and that will shine through.
2007-01-04 11:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by peeps 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you carry yourself with confidence, it shouldn't matter that you are a couple of pounds overweight. Maybe you are just hanging around with the wrong types of guys.
2007-01-04 11:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by memememe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to admit that being fat is a total turn off for me. But you never no. Some guys may be different. I don't like fat girls though.
2007-01-04 11:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by crakajack61 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey! men love women who have something yummy to hold onto! women with curves and fullness, who are soft and round where it matters are the women who are hot. if you went up to any random man he may not actually say it but when it comes to a woman he really wants to undress and hold and caress...the last thing he wants is a bony stick figure with no T'n'A!!!!
2007-01-04 11:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by christine a 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't put all men into one category. You just have to find the one thats right for you.
Good Luck!
2007-01-04 11:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by Pure 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋