im just confused. lots of guys say that i am attractive all the time, yet so few guys actualy make their move. I mean I've never had a real relationship, because the right guy never comes along, and when he does, he is never interested in a relationship . or maybe i just don't have enough innitiative and I need to make things happen for myself. Im honestly not sure, and I generaly don't use yahoo! answers for advice, because thats kind of pathetic, but I wanted a public opinion. What's wrong with me?
2007-01-04 10:58:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
umm... im not fat. i dress pretty well.
2007-01-04 11:07:07 · update #1
First - nothing's wrong with you and there's nothing pathetic about looking for advice.
Second, Guys can be shy about making a move for all sorts of reasons, the most common one being rejection. I don't know what you look like, but if a guy thinks that he'll get turned down, he won't ask. Even the good looking ones, and especially the ones that you'd actually like to meet. I know a lot of very beautiful girls (including my sister) who get really disappointed about the fact that they never seem to get approached by any of the guys. Basically, this is because the guys don't think they stand a chance.
If you see someone you feel you might like to get to know, it doesn't take much - a smile is the best ice breaker I know. They won't need much of an excuse to come and talk to you, but you have to make yourself approachable. You might show up looking like a million dollars, but if you sit and wait for someone to come over - they won't. It's intimidating and is actually going to have the opposite effect to the one you want.
Be 'available' - use eye contact. You'll be meeting lots of people in no time!!
Hope this helps.
2007-01-04 11:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by prusec_int 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sugar coated answer would be 'nothing's wrong with you' but if you want the nitty gritty then I'd say maybe you're just lacking confidence and an open mind of how to meet the right guy.
If there's someone that turns your head, why not make the first move and approach him. You're obviously smart enough to know that a meaningful r'ship can't be manifested overnight.
Take a risk, invest time and effort in getting to know random people. If it doesn't evolve into a r'ship the very least you'll get is a short term friendship.
Good Luck!
2007-01-04 11:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's not pathetic to ask opinions of other people who may have been in your position and could honestly help you. People need eachother. Surprise surprise.
Secondly about your problem. You're probably giving off the wrong vibe. If you're listening to guys say you're attractive but none of them make a move.. maybe it's something more with your personality. Not everything has to do with looks. And not everything should be looked at from a guys view. Take a look at yourself and think about how you talk and appear to other people.. you might not like what you see..
2007-01-04 11:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you may be fat.
If it's not that you might sctually not be all that hot.
Or maybe you dress poorly.
No matter what these other shlubs tell you, when a girl is hot, we chase like bats outta h*ll.
Here's some free advice... Start making eye contact, and put out quickly.
That should raise your stats.
Good luck!
2007-01-04 11:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Champ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of Babes have that problem. The guys think they don't have a chance with you when you"re Fine.They'll fall in Love with you and some grinning @sshole will come along and take you away!
2007-01-04 11:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by KiLLJoY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you. it just takes a lot more time then you'd expect. the right guy will come to you and all you have to do is either wait it out, or go and look for that person. most guys dont want a relationship becuz they arent ready.. but you will find one that is. so just be a little patient, [=
2007-01-04 11:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Riley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is nothing wrong with you... probably lol... sometimes you just have to ask us guys out because some of us are too shy to do it and if you just wait nothing is gonna happen for you... so go out there and make it happen.
2007-01-04 11:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOSH!!! nothing is wrong with you.....but I am in your boat - so please people help us:) It's them the guys that are wrong....not us. Kepp looking for that right onw he will come around - I promise.
2007-01-04 11:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by princesskyniption 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋