my ex-gf was the kind of girl very attached to her mother , and not the kind of girl that go out so much when she met me (she's 28, postgraduate student, and I do too ) ...although we think that our relationship could be difficult because her mother has a terrible power over her and treating her like a child ..I decided to start a relationship with her ..but, yet, I told her that I don't anything in secret ...I wanted to start the relationship clean by getting her parents into it ..in the very beginning, when I want to go dinner with my ex, I also invite her mother , in the purpose that she can gain confidence in me and let me go out with her daughter , and even be at ease with me ...and u know what that seems to work ...Her mother was becoming a little bit more at ease at letting her go out alone with me sometimes ..but yet putting some barriers ..but wasn't it a good idea to involve the parents in that relationship considering the fact that the mother is very attached to her daufhter
2007-01-04 10:57:59 · 6 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, not in my opinion. While I can see the respect thing being an issue, the mom is NOT your concern at all. I'm not understanding why you're putting all this time into an ex-girlfriend and her controlling mother? Why is gaining the approval of the mother so important to you? Is it possible, that in trying to involve her and impress her, you're really contributing to the terrible power she already has over her daughter? Maybe even more importantly, it's up to your ex to break the "control hold" her mom has over her so she can decide if she wants to be with you. I'm trying to imagine a REAL 28 year old woman (post-graduate and all) not being able to make simple dating decisions in her own life. That's kinda pathetic.
2007-01-04 11:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might not date someone so attached to a parent. It would be like dating a young teenager. But I agree that you should not date someone secretly. If you can't be open about your relationship with the important people in your girlfriend or boyfriend's life, it's a real sign of trouble to come. But you should take your cues from the girlfriend as well.
2007-01-04 19:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Tamara K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What happened that she is you ex now? If you went as far as to include her mother in everything you did, that says alot about you. If the reason you two broke up is because of her mother, then its obvious that she can't chose you over her mother, so you should move on. It will just cause problems down the road.
2007-01-04 19:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by ErinRae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's 28 her mom should not have anything to do with her relationships like that anyhow, but if you want to ask her mom to go with you guys that good, but seems extreme really. If you think her mother will interfere with your relationship then I would rethink whether or not I wanted to be with her.
2007-01-04 19:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a great idea and you are a total gentleman for doing that for her and the mother. So what was the question?
2007-01-04 19:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your girl needs to grow up and become a woman... until then this relationship is finished before it even starts!
2007-01-04 19:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Graham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋