My girlfriend told me that a guy wanted to take her out. She was surprised when I said that it was ok with me if it was something she would find exciting. She asked what if it went farther and I said just go with the situation. She slept with him and she is completely normal and nice at home and all is good but every month when she is in THAT MOOD she gets together with him and they have sex. She says it is really exciting having no strings. Would you do this if it was just for fun if your boyfriend said it was ok. I mean I don't really like it, but I it really is exciting for her and makes her feel alive. So I just let it happen and love her when she gets home... but that is a different story and a bit messy if you know what I mean. I guess I am a little twisted so for the guys the question would be have any of you wanted to have someone sleep with your woman and then have her afterwards?
2007-01-04 10:51:33 · 20 answers · asked by CTM 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It shows that you are mature & liberal, and do not consider that your relationship with her hinges on sex as a priority. On the other hand you must be willing to lose her as gracefully as you permitted her the liberty she has. I would ask if she is as generous with you as you are with her, if its mutual, great, if not be care full.
2007-01-04 11:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if she would reciprocate the favor. I do know people who have an "open" relationship, but they both experiemnt and explore, not just one of them. If you don't really like it, then why do you allow it to happen? That's not a sacrifice for the one you love. It's not like it's her dying wish. If she cannot be happy with just you, then the two of you need to find some way to spice things up. It's kind of like disliking smoking, but telling her it doesn't bother you if she does. Eventually it will get to you but you will have no leg to stand on because you never complained before. That also makes you a liar. Anyway, that probably doesn't help you much, but maybe something to consider?
2007-01-04 18:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by sammiejane67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok...ummm first of all after you just typed all of that, really think about it, i mean really think about what, she asked you to do, what you said and how u feel about it afterwards, as you kept letting her do this....it all comes down to this question, just think to yourself..is that really MY girl?!!? i mean think about it,you might say that you love her and want her to be happy but if it involves her( YOUR WOMAN) messing around, having sex with some other guy, thats not really being honest on her behalf, and you that was a stuped move, but you can always make things better its nothing, and i mean nothing that you cannot fix, you need to sit her down and have a really long talk, about how you feel and how you think it is effecting yall's relationship, and if she really loves you that much then she will understand and hopefully stop and it will make the both of yall much happier,.....goodluck best wishes....
2007-01-04 19:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you enjoy venerial disease? What's your favorite...chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis...AIDS?? Becuase if you stay with her, you're likely to get one or more of these, and how do you know she isn't sleeping w/other guys as well???
Look dude, for your OWN sake, get out while you still can. There's a reason all of the hippies started dying off young.
I'm sure there are plenty of other women out there who would never do that to you...
2007-01-04 19:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose this is called an open relationship. If I had a girl that did that to me, I'd dump her.
I have dated girls, who were dating other guys, and I knew it wasn't exclusive, so I was fine with that. But the Jealousy bug got to me, and I gave her up.
For me, it needs to be a one on one, relationship.
My thought is, if I didn't mind what she did, then I don't care for her that much.
2007-01-04 19:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and you should find a new girlfriend, it is takes this guy to make her feel alive then let her be with him and find someone else who will be happy with you and not want to be with anyone else...
2007-01-04 19:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are serious, but if you are wake the f*ck up. Your girlfriend is getting slammed by some other guy and coming home to you. Tell her you want to start banging other girls and if she is ok with it then so be it.
2007-01-04 18:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are kidding right? Dump your girl, she isnt a good person being able to share herself the way she does. You should go and see someone, talk to someone older than you but please just do something. I am not being funny, you need help and I suggest God as an answer, he always helps me out.
2007-01-04 18:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She obviously is not the one for you. Who asks their man if they can go out with another!? She's basically cheating, it's just known. How can you let her do this? It's like you are her "sloppy second". Get this bit ch out of your life!
2007-01-04 18:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by No O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U a really sick and pathetic dude.You are not a men you are a mouse and a sick one.You should face your reality since you may like to suck on penises.
2007-01-04 18:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋