I got married a couple years ago, I did not want to get married to this guy but I kinda got forced into it. I did not love him, I didnt want to be with him and the marriage only lasted a couple months. We didnt have a big wedding or anything, it was with just some friends so I never wore a dress or anything. I want to get married now, to the love of my life and I want to have a big wedding with everyone and I really really want to wear a white wedding dress. Is this a sin? Why is it such a big deal that you cant wear white if you get married again? Since i never wore my first white wedding dress, can I wear it now? Someone help me with this please. Thanks
2007-01-04 10:48:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You wear what you want to wear and if people don't like it then they need to get over it and live with it ,,,, I don't know exactly what the circumstance of your first marriage was but your being forced into it was WRONG !!!,,,, Because no one can live your life for you and make decisions for you ,,,,So why do they think they have any business or a right to tell you who to marry in the first place ,,,, This goes for anyone no matter who it is ,,,,parents ,,,, relatives ,,,, friends or any combination there of ,,,, God !! ,,,, Nosy and interfering people like that pisses me off to no end ,,,,, I wasn't going to submit an answer to this question at first but the more I thought about it the madder I got ,,,, You need to avoid any of these people that were involved with pushing you into your first marriage ,,,, Their stupidity and interference forced a failed marriage ,,,, I hope they're satisfied ,,,, The divorce should show them just how stupid their decision for you to marry this guy was ,,,,they are the last ones you should ever go to for advise ,,,, I could go on and on about this but it would be like beating a dead horse ,,,,, As for the dress ,,,,, White is supposed to represent virginity ,,,,, or so they say ,,,,, When you think about the very first marriage ,,,, Probably the only thing Eve had on were white flowers in her hair ,,,, Any way marriage is a state of mind not a fact of law ,,,,, You might have married this first guy but if your mind wasn't in to it then you didn't marry at all and you are still a vigrin whether it might be true in body or not ,,,, It's the mind and what's in it that is important here ,,,, I don't know if you are getting any flack from other people about what you should wear now ,,,, You didn't mention that one way or another ,,,,, But if you are then tell these people that it's past time for them to mind their own business too ,,,, You followed other peoples advice once and look what it got you ,,,,, You shouldn't have to live your life according to the dictates of others and you shouldn't be expected too ,,,, You've seen what happens when other people make decisions for you ,,,,, It's past time for you to try it your way ,,,, Wear that dress by all means ,,,, THERE IS NO SIN IN IT,,,,, And tell those that don't agree to drop dead ,,,,, Your mind and heart weren't into your first marriage at all ,,,,, But you say it is in this situation ,,,,, That makes you a virgin getting married for the first time in my book ,,,,, Good luck ,,,,, and get into the habbit of standing up for yourself ,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,
2007-01-04 11:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on your wedding!
At the risk of sounding mean --I don't want to :)-- I wish someone would really deflate the morals patrol that has gone around spreading the rumor that white dresses signify that a bride is a virgin. It's something stupid that's been spread around for the last 50 years for no useful purpose. The custom of wearing white dates back to the Roman era when white was worn to weddings to symbolize happiness. As some of the other folks have mentioned, the color fell out of fashion for hundreds of years, in favor of more practical clothes, until Victoria revitalized the idea of the white dress. Victoria wore white as a symbol of her wealth (very few could afford a dress to wear only once).
The only custom that you might want to review is the blusher veil (worn over the face). This is symbolic of a first marriage. If you wear a veil, it should be worn away from the face. Just as a side note, white wedding dresses come in so many variations-- my personal favorite is a white which is woven to reflect candlelight, you might find that your perfect white isn't a true white! This has been the case for many 1st, 2nd, 3rd etc. time brides.
I hope this help you and good luck!
2007-01-05 01:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by jc 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
FWIW, the white wedding dress thing came about when Queen Victoria wore one for wedding to Prince Albert. Before that, people just wore the best clothes they had, whatever color those clothes were. Please note also that in the times before the end of World War II, most people were not wealthy enough to buy (or make) a dress that they only could wear once, and so the wedding dress was usually of a color that the bride could wear on other occasions.
Wear whatever you want. Or do something different and go butt naked, if that's what floats your boat! For what it's worth, something like 80% of all couples now cohabit before they marry, so the "white is for virgins only" thing is in its death throes now.
If it really, really, really bothers you to wear white, to the point where you can't enjoy wearing a white dress, then do something like wear an ivory or ice blue dress or something. Or opt for a gown in a gold brocade to have a rich look. Enjoy!
2007-01-04 19:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by Karin C 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is absolutely nothing religous about the color of your wedding dress. In fact, in many religions, the bride is supposed to wear red. If you even go back 75 years or so, you wil find that not many people wore white wedding dresses - it's a very modern thing in fact. SO, that being said - wearing white is not a sin, and even if you had worn one before, you still could wear one now.
2007-01-04 18:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Of course you can. For one it is your wedding and you should do what ever you want. The old traditions are out the window. If you are comfortable wearing a white gown then there isn't any reason not to. The white can symbolize the purity of your love for one another not for the purity of your virginity or how many times you've been married. This is the beginning of the rest of your life, a new page in your book and you should be able to start that fresh, clear, pure, and comfortable. Good luck and congrats.
2007-01-04 18:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I never heard of it being a sin. I think you should wear a white wedding dress, and get married to the love of your life!
God bless!
2007-01-04 18:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can wear whatever you want! White, cream, off white, blue, green or red. There is no sin in color. All color is good. Have a church wedding! Get married under the stars or on a beach! Don't let anyone tell you it's wrong.
Congratulations on finding MR. RIGHT!
2007-01-04 18:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by naliwad 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I say wear a white dress. I don't believe it's a sin. Don't worry about the the old tradition of not wearing white if you get married again. Many weddings are very untraditional nowadays. I don't see any reason not to wear white.
2007-01-04 18:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mira 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should wear the wedding dress you intended to wear the first time but didn't. It isn't written anywhere that you cannot wear white to your second wedding. Whatever you choose to wear you will look great because it is your day don't worry about it have a wonderful wedding
congrats on your wedding
2007-01-04 21:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by Krypto 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go Ahead!!
I have two children and wore white at my wedding. It was my first wedding but, we lived together before for 3 years. Don't let others tell you what to do you've been there seen it and done it . Have fun its your life and you are only here once!
2007-01-04 19:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋