I seem to have an interest in one type of guy and all the other ones just seem fuzzy on the sides of my vision. I am kinda cute and I don't have a LACK of guys...just rather the ones that I want. I have ruined several budding relationships because of stupid things like "he's not assertive enough" or "he's too serious", "not caring enough", "we don't have enough in common", "too short", "not attentive enough". I WANT a boyfriend as good as the first one I had but I also don't want to settle for someone just because they are there and want me. If only I could find that cute, skater guy, with piercings and tattoos that adores me and wants to spend time with me, loves to make jokes, artistic, in a band, and can get my sense of humor. I'm so picky!!!!
2007-01-04 10:48:18 · 4 answers · asked by Gwenith O 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel you sister! I have the same problem. But guess what, I lowered my standards for once to see what would happen, and I ended up miserable.
But I also think it depends WHAT you are lowering your standards on. From what you mentioned, I think "adores me and wants to spend time with me, and can get my sense of humor" are pretty important. These are some things you should NOT lower your standards with. However, if he's not a skater, in a band, or doesn't have tattoos, give him a try anyway. These are more superficial things that may not matter too much if he's the right guy.
You have to let up being so picky, but only on certain things! The right guy is out there. Don't give up hope!
2007-01-04 10:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be my long lost twin. Don't settle. I've tried looking over things I'm picky about and can't make it past 3 dates...I'm miserable. It'll just be tougher finding boyfriends, that's all. I wish there were a cure for the pickiness but until then, you'll just have to be selective. At least you know what you want!
2007-01-04 19:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you've got your sights set pretty specific.
Broaden your scope. Cute skater guys with piercings and tattoos, etc aren't the only ones that are worth your time.... Dating is about having fun, getting to know others and yourself...
For example, I am attracted to the tall lean kind (think Hugh Jackman or Jeff Goldblum)... but my husband is 5'5", and 220 pounds... "short, fat, and happy".... and I wouldn't trade him in for ANYONE!!!! He fits the other things- character... that I was NOT willing to compromise on...
Relax, have fun, PLAY!!
2007-01-04 19:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't try so hard to find the right one. If you're young, enjoy the dating scene. I met my wife out the blue when I had decided to never have a serious relationship. It just happens.
2007-01-04 18:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by SLUG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋