I tend to think of my violin as my life but my family doesnt.?

Question

I try to spend as much time as i can with my violin and learning the music. But My familys trys to make it not work because they think i spend to much time with it.That i need a new life.

Should i tell them to bug off and let me follow my own future or go along with what they are saying and stop

But my family thinks that evberyone needs to be the same..
My family is divorced that is y i try to spend as much time as i can with music but they try to make me like my other siblings."smart college grads."*barf*
I want to go into to something i like but those things i call parents wont let me because they say it wouldent be right

Answer 1

Your family don't know values if they are divorce as you mentioned. The fact that they don't support your dreams really tells you what they want out of you, meaning their own personal agenda. If violin is your life then go ahead, it is not like it is going to hurt someone. The fact that your parents are saying to go to grad school, they just want you to be successful and be happy (meaning rich), they also expect you to be better. You got to understand this, you have to look at it at both perspective. You also need to consult with your family if you are going to go throught this, you shouldn't be asking for answers in the internet, especially yahoo, because we don't know enough or credit or have the right to help you with personal problems. You got to look deep inside you if this is really what you want, because I have seen kids who are musicians that are really good but never go far, meaning you should have a back up plan if you don't make it, like minor in medicine or something. Well talk it with your family (not the net), but do it in an appropiate way, not just burst out and tell them to bug off. Also they are just looking out for you, that is why they want you to do something other than music (because music is not a stable career). GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS.

Answer 2

In my opinion, every life needs balance. The time you spend learning your instrument is very important - but so are exercise and people skils that you learn from being out in the world and interacting with others. Why not discuss a compromise. Maybe every other day you can take a few hours off and enjoy an active, more social pursuit. Take a karate class or yoga (that might even help your playing - the control and centering). Maybe go to lunch and shopping with your mom or join a volleyball group with a friend.

I don't think you should stop the music, but I do think you should make some time for other things. 1/2 time 3 days a week doesn't seem like too much to ask.

Peace!

Answer 3

Don't stop! If this is what's your life, if it's what you love to do and what you're dedicated to, keep on playing your music and learning as much as you can! It's your life and your family can't tell you no to that. It's your life and your future. And of course they don't understand your violin... If they can't play the music like you can, or just don't enjoy it like you do, they're not going to understand. They're probably going to think their own hobbies and interests are better, because that's how everyone is. But you stick to what YOU love, and follow YOUR heart. Good luck, and have a great upcoming weekend! And keep up the good job with your music...

But there is a different aspect to this. If it's all you do, your family, while not fully understanding, might just "miss" you. Try to evaluate yourself, look at your values, and see what's most important in your life. Try to make time for both and balance it all out. Spend some more time with your family and maybe it will quiet them down a little. They love you, and their intentions are to make you happier (even if it sometimes works and sometimes doesn't). Devote yourself to your dream, your instrument, but do not turn your back on your family. They love you.

Answer 4

I completely understand what you're going through. When I told my family I was going into music (I'm a flute player and conductor), they thought I was crazy. I had always done well in school, and to this day, this still think I should have been a lawyer.

All I can say is that I am thrilled to death that I am in the profession I am in. The music profession is difficult, and while it didn't go quite as I planned, I love going to work every day. Follow your own future. They need to understand that only you can decide what makes you happy. Although the road may be tough, do what you feel like you should do in your heart. I know financially it was really hard for me to get through school (which by the way- you can be a college grad) because my family really didn't support me, and I'll never be wealthy, but I still think it's worth it.

Hang in there! Keep practicing!

Answer 5

Music is a very important talent.
Follow your dreams and do your school work as well.
Practice your violin when family members are not at home, or away from them, so they don't have to hear it all the time.

Music is an important math skill!!!
Music uses a part of the brain that is not normally used.
that is why we "sing" the ABC's.

Tell your parents, Violin is your passion, you will do all your studies and keep a 3.0 or 2.7 GPA.
I feel if you keep things in perspective you can have it all!

Keep your violin.
Don't give up your family
Stay in School and apply yourself
Take all the music and math classes you can handle!

Go for it!
you may very well be the next virtuoso

Answer 6

Yay, another violin lover!

After entering the normal work force, my poor violin has suffered some moisture damage from my living in Florida and part of it has warped - I feel so bad for it...

Well now, depending on how old you are, it may be time to make a stance and leave the roost and start off on your own. If you are truly willing to embrace the violin as your life's work, then find some place that will take you in and train you to become a master - and then do the concert tours, or join a prestigious orchestra - you can definitely make a ton of money.

Answer 7

Music is a great retreat when the world around you seems crazy, but you have to face the issues in your life eventually, so don't replace dealing with your family with playing your violin. Keep practicing though, and tell your family that if they want you to be like your 'smart college siblings', they should want you to be the best you can at whatever you do, and practicing is the only way to get that good.

Answer 8

For one thing, congratulations! You are devoted enough to learn how to play an instrument. I think you will have a very promising future.
About your family, don't worry about them. Sometimes a situation like this happens to me (I LOVE reading, but my parents think I do it too much). Try to talk to your parents. Tell them that this is your life, and while you understand what they are saying, tell them that you want to be able to accomlish something in your own life, without their help. Say, "I understand what you're saying, but I want to accomplish something without your help. I'm not a child anymore. I want to be able to follow my dreams." If they respond negatively, just ask them, "Do you want me to stop playing the violin? Stop learning a musical instrument? Being able to play the violin could impress people, but if you don't want me to play it, well..." Let the sentence dangle, and hear what they have to say.

Answer 9

I just hope your family never leaves your side. Otherwise you're gonna hate that violin so much because every minute you spend playing is one less that you spent with a relative whose life you took for granted. Cheesy as it might sound, I hope you never have to go through that.

Answer 10

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