I thought I was pregent, turns out I'm not. My boyfriend is happy because he said we are not ready for a baby, although he wants to have one with later on down the road. When I found out I wasn't, I didn't know if I wanted to cry or if I should be happy. and I still don't know how I feel about this. some thoughts please?
2007-01-04 10:34:48 · 10 answers · asked by mistymae33 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Sometimes when we think we are pregnant we start to love the baby before we find out if there is one or not. I know how you feel. The reason you are sad is because you were in love with the baby that wasn't there. If it is not the right time to have a baby you can be happy but you will more likely be sad over the loss. even though you didn't lose anything. So go ahead and be sad and cry you will not feel like that forever just get it out of your system. Good luck!
2007-01-04 10:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by aimeeme_g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can feel however you want to. It may be a relief to not be having a baby you hadn't planned on. But, if you had already gotten all your hopes wrapped up in the baby you thought you would have and it is understandable if you are disappointed.
2007-01-04 18:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not financially ready for a baby, then maybe its a good thing. Most importanly though talk to your boyfriend and make sure he really does want a baby later on and not just saying that. If you do and he doesn't then you all will have major problems in your relationship..
2007-01-04 18:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by swimgal324 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have felt that way too...I have one child and have been in the situation a couple times....afterward I was both sad and happy....but the best way I dealt with it is to remember that there is always the future and it wan't meant to be at this moment....I hope you feel better.
2007-01-04 18:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by b_fab115 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy, because it was a pleasant fantasy that allowed you to know that you will welcome a pregnancy when the time comes, and your partner will too.
Please be married when the time comes. Children need the stability, and you will need the benefits.
2007-01-04 21:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by Pamela B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel however you feel. If you are kind of bummed because you thought you were that is OK. It is OK to realize that it is for the best and still be bummed.
2007-01-04 18:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy, because you can always have time to prepare to have a baby.
2007-01-04 18:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Key word here is BOYFRIEND. I know it feels like you lost something here, but really until he's your husband, you really don't want to have a baby trust me.
2007-01-04 18:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i would try to be happy and when the time is right you will have one.... you really want your boyfriend to want one and to be trying.. good luck..
2007-01-04 18:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Steph24 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOUR REACTION IS NORMAL GIVEN THE CIRCUMSTANCES! WOULDN'T YOU RATHER WAIT TO HAVE THIS BABY WHEN YOUR FIANCE IS YOUR HUSBAND AND YOU ARE MORE SETTLED?
2007-01-04 18:37:04 · answer #10 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋