I don't know but, eventhough you love your gf very much, but the parents are treating you badly and putting subtile barriers in the relationship, or seems to be hypocrites with you , I meant telling good things when you're there , and saying evil things about you to their daughter about you ..My gf sometimes tell me that ...But, the fact is my gf is very attached to her parents and what her parents say or think is important to her ..Would you feel at ease in a relationship like that , where the parents , especially the mother has a great power in the decision of her daughter ..? or would you force the things anyway, forcing the girl to run away form the house or leave her parents for you ? or just respect the fact , that it could impossible to integrate this family if her parents are against you and the girl has nothing to do than respect her parents word ..? what do you think of that kind of relationship and the attitude of the girl , shouldn't she fight herself back for me 2?
2007-01-04 10:22:35 · 9 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave her
2007-01-04 10:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't even have to read this all to form my opinion. You know in my situation I'm trying to find someone who I can love like I've loved in the past. My sister ALWAYS has a problem with EVERY single man Im remotely intrested in. She bothers the heck out of me. Like today on the phone with her, I just wanted to tell her off and really I dont care if I ever speak to her again. But I didn't I just told her I didn't think her man was good looking, whatever. I'm so tired of peoples negativity and you cant even count on your own family... it just sucks. My mom would never say anything like my sisters do though...I have no problems with mom, she's very religious and a great role model I'm very blessed to have her as my mom. My sis however she's just negative and hard on everyone and I bet u money she'll end up driving her man away someday. So hang in there and who cares what anyone thinks!!! When I was younger I cared so much what others thought about me and who I was with but today I can care less!!! BTW God says to leave your parents and become one together, if she truly loves you she will give everything she has to be with you and love you, you are one and if the family doesn't like it show them to the door...period!
2007-01-04 10:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OmG this had brought back some memories in my past . Only it was my father that didnt like my b/f.. He was the scurm of the earth. I ended up marrying him when i was 19 and had 2 sons . My father finally saw that we were so much in love and on my fathers death bed he told my hubby that he saw how we loved each other and made hubby promise to take care of us. He (father ) was overerly protective of me and before he died realized that his daughter( me) made the right choice . My hubby has lived up to his promise to my father and we have a great life together. So daddy is resting in peace now. You have to prove yourself to those parents of your g/f. Dont do anything foolish as in running away with her. You have to have respect for her and her parents. Good luck.
2007-01-04 10:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends how old u both r. if ur adults (college and later) which seems to be the case ,she should have her own opinion and make a choice about what is important to her. She should decide, she is showing that she is indesicive which is gonna cause u a lot of trouble. She definetly should stand up 4 u, if she isn;t, why r u wasting ur time?
2007-01-04 10:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what, yeah she should be fighting back! i myself am in a relationship where my parents don't like my girlfriend but that dont stop me at all. i fight for what i believe in and her parents should be no obstacle. If she really cares, then this wont affect the relationship. I am attached to my parents but i dont let them brain wash me at all. she shouldnt allow it either. I would be worried about her parents brainwashing her! be careful and make sure her feelings dont change for you
2007-01-04 10:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by dj idk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girlfriend doesnt fight back . Its a sign, been there done that . If she has the heart to tell you what they are saying makes it work . You cant make people like you . If they dont , screw them you know you are a good person and a catch .
2007-01-04 10:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by quinta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just face he music that the relationship is doomed. i've been thier. with my own parents and i'm sorry to say maybe i'm weak in that way but my parents always won. then i actually found a guy that they like and thier's nothing better then when we all get along. Don't force her to choose just go along for the ride and ignore it.
2007-01-04 10:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by night_lilly66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced my X for the above reason his family was always against me and he never stood up for us she will never change so let her go and be with a girl that love you no matter what her parents say its not like your getting her on drugs or hitting her !
2007-01-04 10:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend and I are in the same disposition. I believe my boyfriend would ask the same question. Unfortunately, you are not as nice as he is. I would say that as long as you two love each other, you guys can conquer anything.
2007-01-04 10:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by melomane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋