I never thought I'd be a Mom and now that I am one I can honestly say that I love my son with all of my heart & soul. But I still have no interest what so ever in other kids. I have nieces & nephews but can't be bothered by them. When people talk about their kids I find my mind wandering off to grocery lists or only thinking about my child. I could care less about other kids.
Is there anyone else out there like this? Will this maybe change when my son gets to be older & then there will be more kids around?
Please no abuse...I know it is shallow & unkind but I just want to know if there is anyone else out there like me
2007-01-04 10:16:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I get you. I was never the type to "coochie-coo!" a strangers baby, ever. When I first got pregnant, I worried whether I would care about my own children, but now that I have a two older children, and a new baby, I feel differently about them--the love I have is deep and I admire them. (edited: so on the contrary, I do not think you sound SHALLOW at all, because you love your children as individuals, and don't consider them just kids) .
I do not talk about them to others (unless asked, though, and I am short and sweet about it). I don't much care to sit and listen to the LONG -winded discussion of accomplishments of other people's kids, or even just mundane things associated with child-rearing.
2007-01-04 11:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by * 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad. My entire life revolved around kids. I started volunteering at a daycare when I was 12. I went on to work for pay at other daycares, be a nanny, a Sunday school teacher, an infant care manager at a child development center, a pre-school teacher, the lead caregiver at an after school center, and a substitute elementary school teacher.
Guess what? I cannot stand being around other people's kids. I used to love kids but then I had my own. I love my own but I cannot be bothered to deal with those of other people. Don't get me wrong. I adore my nieces and nephews. My oldest has some friends that I think are great kids. I'm not against all kids or anything. But for the most part other people's children annoy the heck out of me and I no longer have the desire to make a living by working with them. I'd rather be home with my own. I don't know if it is a result of just being busy with my own or the fact that terrible parenting trends are creating some terrible children.
2007-01-04 18:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mom of five with two step kids who technically are not my own kids I find your attitude a little strange but understandable,you are certailnly not alone.
I have always loved kids,when I married my husband I had to accept with him two of the most adorable little girls,without who I cannot imagine our life. Our house is constantly full of kids both our own and other people's.....I love that our home is a second home to so many of our kids' friends. I wouldn't have it any other way.
To be honest as your son grows older and his friends come round to the house to play I think and hope that you will change......you will warm to the kids that make him happy as his happiness is so important to you.
As long as your child does not suffer in that you provide him with a sibling if you can and that he feels welcome to have his friends to play whenever he wants then I doubt that it matters. Besides we all love the kids that we raise the most whether we admit it or not.
2007-01-04 18:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by strictmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that I do not like other kids but I too have a son-20 months and am 33 weeks pregnant with my 2nd son and I feel like I have my hands-and mind-full enough quite often.I have 3 lovely little nieces and my sis wants me to babysit them often and I do-but I wouldn't say I enjoy it.I have some friends with other kids my son's age and we talk about our kids and what they are doing etc.
you are fine!
2007-01-04 18:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by mama of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...I love my daughter to death, but I can hardly stand other people's kids. I can tolerate my neices for so long, but my patience wears thin with them. I think that it is normal. I know other people like that, too. I find myself bothered by the way other people's kids act in public. I think, yes, that it may get better as your son gets older, and starts having personal friends, and such...but it may not go away completely. It may just be a personality trait!! But, you are not alone....I know that I am that way, too.
2007-01-04 18:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Denise D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is unkind about it? I have a son too who I would give my life for in a heartbeat. But I just don't like children either. I find them to be very irritating and I'm very uncomfortable around them. I would never hurt one, I just don't like them. Join the club!
2007-01-04 18:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes that's possible. Your own children are perfect in your eyes. I like most all children but there are a few I know that I cannot stand. I actually got asked to teach and I made sure to get in a grade where none of this one ladies children were in.
2007-01-04 18:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by aimeeme_g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah! I never really liked kids, and was always never going to have them. I love my son til the end of the earth, but I really have no patience for other peoples children. Don't feel bad.
2007-01-04 18:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know lots of people who love their own kids, but not other's. I am that way too. There is nothing wrong with it, especially in this day and age when many are spoiled brats and have no consideration or respect for others.
2007-01-04 18:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by pepepippy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree wiht you. Not all people love other children. I love my kids and I have some friends kids I really love, but some kids can really get on my nerves. Most of my friends have the same beliefs in raising children as I do so that helps.
2007-01-04 18:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by mktk401 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋