My neighbor cursed me out about a year ago. Tonight his wife came over and apologized. She asked for forgiveness and I told her that I forgave her husband when the incident happened, but that I did't feel that there could be any reconciliation in the relationship unless he apologized. If the man was lying on the street, I would help him with no second thought about it, but as far as having a relationship with him - I don't believe that's possible.
Am I wrong here? I very much want to do what G-d would have me do. I want more than anything to be obedient to Him. What does His Torah say about this kind of thing?
I find that I have these same feelings in all of my relationships. I can forgive people, but I can't just carry on as if nothing happened. I believe that would be dishonest and dysfunctional and likely to happen again.
If you don't follow Torah, please don't answer this question. No offense. Thank you!
2007-01-04 10:14:38 · 6 answers · asked by SuzieQ92 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Wow, "me" that is pretty harsh. And I am a Gentile! I just happen to follow Torah because of the verse in Leviticus that says that there is one law for both the Israelite and the strangers that dwell among them.
So the consensus is that I should be reconciled to people who have wronged me even if they have shown no remorse and are apt to do it again?
2007-01-04 10:38:39 · update #1
the torah says "you shouldn't revenge and you shouldn't hold grudges"
לא תיקום ולא תיטור
If you don't feel like you can talk to that person or be his "friend" again then (in my opinion) you didn't forgive him all the way and that's certenly isn't the torah's way.
And for the record - the one who answered 2 answers above me "me" is so wrong!!!!!!! and ofensive too, that is so not the judaism way... he makes judaism look so violent, brutal and fanatic and it's so not like that!!!!
2007-01-04 10:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by yafit k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God led me out of an abusive marriage. I have not have been given any bitterness in my heart. If I communicate approximately this time in my existence this is barely to help others or to hold glory to God, yet in any different case my recommendations does not shop going back there and that i've got faith no bitterness. yet whilst God noted as me out of that courting, could he then tell me to reconcile? If that have been the case then he does not have led me to divorce. So, does that mean i'm incapable of actual forgiveness without returning to my previous husband? i don't think of so. i be attentive to i'm making this completely own, yet whilst your pastor replaced into maximum fabulous, then all people who did not return to their previous companion does not be living in forgiveness. purely does not make experience. this is actual, that with actual forgiveness, it is going to become much less painful and the seen seeing somebody who harm you is long previous or much less. you will possibly not opt to restart your friendship for good reason, yet whilst the assumption of this is better than you may undergo, then you definitely would possibly not have incredibly forgiven. i hit upon that forgiving brings therapeutic. whilst there is not any therapeutic, there is not any forgiveness.
2016-12-12 03:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know Torah would want you to go on over and give the guy a big Kiss right smack on the lips with passion. Then go on out and have a drank with the guy. Hell why not have two. xx
2007-01-04 10:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Betty Boop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Micah 6:8..."He has told you, SuzieQ92, what is good & what the L-RD requires of you: only do justice & love goodness, & walk modestly with your G-d. Then will your name achieve wisdom."
2007-01-04 10:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forgive the man regardless.
2007-01-04 10:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Maurice H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out www.torah.org.
2007-01-04 10:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Bethe W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋