My 18 year old daughter is finishing High School this Summer and I want her to be responsible and learn about life skills, she is a good girl and smart however she is irresponsible and disrespectful at home, I do not need to take that behavior, should I ask her to leave or should I give her other options???
2007-01-04 09:58:56 · 5 answers · asked by Elsa C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Have a good, honest, nonjudgmental talk with her about what you expect from her as an almost-grown woman in your house. Explain that although you can no longer tell her want to do as far as her own life is concerned, you still have the right to manage your household the way you see fit, and it is upon her, as someone living in your house, to abide by your rules.
Be reasonable. You can tell her not to leave dirty dishes in the sink or not to have boys in her room, but you can't tell her not to play her music or her TV in her own room at a reasonable noise level. Let her have jurisdiction over her own room, within reason.
Don't expect overnight miracles. It will take her some time to learn to be a responsible adult.
If she is going to college--either away or at home--this is the wrong time to push her out. She needs her home base as a place to come home to, and perhaps to study and to socialize. However, if she isn't continuing her education and expects to take her place in the world as a full-time adult, discuss with her whether it's best for her and you if she stay on or find a place of her own in time. If she's impossible, perhaps a friend or relative can take her on for a time.
If she's working and not going to college or trade school after she graduates high school, she should pay you some kind of rent, even if it's a token $20 a week (unless her wages are pitifully small). Regardless, she should help with the chores: cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking out garbage, food shopping. I'd say the same about an 18-year-old boy living with his parents.
It's still your job to help her grow up. Don't act like an unreasonable tyrant, but don't be a doormat either.
2007-01-04 10:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well does she want to go to school, suggest a school farther away, teach her about the responsibilty of student loans, laundry, jobs, and life ect I bet she will rescpect you alot more if she sees life isnt always handed to you and you have to work hard for stuff....i know my lil sis learned that lesson when she went to school...she only went about 45 minutes away from home to a community college but my mom made her move out with her friends into a apt..she is a totally different person now...too busy to get into trouble and is using her own money for rent and school ect so she values it and appreciates when mymom helps her out on occasion now!! Good luck
2007-01-04 18:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give her the option first. but if she keeps it up then help her find a place, make her get a job. and yup kick her out. heck im 18 and i wanted to leave my parents home! i left when i was 17 and i love it!!! i can come and go as i please. im in school and doing well. bcuz everyone fought in my house so i couldnt get ne work done. but i love it!
2007-01-04 18:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by yummy_20032001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Pay rent
2. Don't pay rent but follow rules and get a job.
3. Move out.
Sounds like good options to me.
2007-01-04 18:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Karen 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that if her behavior does nt improve she gona have to move out and give her so long to change her self
2007-01-04 18:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋