my boy friend is always mad when i chill with other people he wants it to be me and him. like i always have to explain to him why im with a certain person and it is really starting to make me mad. cause i can never go out and breathe at all. i love him but he doesnt understand how i feel and it is making me crazy because sometimes i want to leave him and do my own thing.
2007-01-04 09:52:57 · 12 answers · asked by ms. williams 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's never okay, no.
You are a competent person, and you do not need him to socialize for you. I will not judge you, him, or your relationship, but it is unhealthy for him to be exerting any kind of dominance over you. He doesn't need to 'approve' of your friends, he is not your father.
2007-01-04 09:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by ebonii_cuteee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is more of a problem than even you know.
Your boyfriend is one of those guys that are one of two things.
Jealous or controlling.
Either one you don't need. If you have friends that you knew before him and he has a problem with that you need to tell him to cut it out. You don't tell him who he can see so stop it.
There is a very good chance that no matter what you say he will not let up. If he is controlling he will not and only get worse.
These are the kind of guys that can be abusive. I am not saying he is but he very easily could be if pushed far enough.
A controlling person will never ever let up until they get their way.
My advice is tell him what you don't like about this and that it makes you mad. If he doesn't understand and doesn't change, drop him. If you don't you will one day find yourself with no other friends and he will insist he knows where you are at all times.
Yes it can get that bad! Consider this your warning!
2007-01-04 10:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no. Unless you are in a semi-vegetative state, there is no reason why he should pick your friends. I'd say jump out of this relationship before he starts telling you what to wear, eat, do and what family you can't see anymore. 'Cause this is just the tip of the iceburg with guys like that. I say go do your own thing. If he doesn't understand that you both need your own space once in awhile now...later will totally suck in this relationship!
2007-01-04 09:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds controlling, and that's a sign of insecurity, so I wouldn't advise you to keep being his girlfriend, because right now he's just getting mad, but at some point he may raise his hand. You should not have to give up your friends, or be explaining nothing to him. You are not married to him, even if you were, you should be able to have friends that he didn't pic for you...he has trust issues. He just wants some one who can report to him everything you do when he's not around to see for himself...Leave Him please! That's not a healthy relationship.
2007-01-04 09:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by lil_l2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its called jealousy. Its not okay for him to pick your friends. Your friends were there before him, and probably still there after him...assuming you don't abandon them because he says so. Explain to him that you love being with him, but there are times you want to hang out with your friends....abscense makes the heart grow fonder. Maybe you can pick nights where he hangs with his friends and you with yours. The only time when him "choosing" your friends is reasonable is when they are shady people, like drug addicts, alcoholics, or anyone that could put you in adangerous situation.
2007-01-04 09:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Autumn C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never OK for a boyfriend to pick YOUR friends. After all they are YOURS not his.
It sounds like he is jealous and a control freak. Jealously can lead to many bad things like violence. I would leave him for good as with his behaviour your situation can only end in tears or worse.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-04 09:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Maple Leaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not really because it means hes jealous and that isn't a good sign he should let you be because he isn't you and he has different taste, also I'm not sure if its OK to leave him,, but he should really focus more on you than Ur friends after all he is your boyfriend and he should let you be you ..... I think it would be good for you to just do your own thing.
if he really loves you he will change!
2007-01-04 10:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. You have the right to speak up. He sounds controlling and jealous. Best approach is to ask and let him know you don't feel uncomfortable when he does that... if he doesn't follow throu then you have to let him go before his controlling attitude gets worse. He hates to see a strong woman speaking up.
2007-01-04 09:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. The only person who should be in control of your social life is you. You shouldn't have to put up with this. Tell him that you can talk to whomever you please, and he can't say anything about it.
2007-01-04 09:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, it is not okay for your BF to pick your friends. That is controlling and immature.
2007-01-04 09:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋