My youngest just got a new toddler bed for Christmas. She got a toddler bed instead of a twin because due to the space in her room. Anyways, I was wondering how I would bring it up to an elderly neighbor? This lady is in her 60's and is raising her 4 grandkids because her daughter overdosed on heroin last year. The youngest grandchild is close to my oldest daughters age. Would it be rude if I just blurted out that I have a toddler bed to get rid of? I don't want her to think she's some kind of charity case because that's not it. I just didn't like the bed my daughter had so I bought her a new one. Another thing, the little boy is close to three. Would he be too old for a toddler bed?
2007-01-04 09:52:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This lady has come over to ask my fiance for a few cigarettes. She won't take them unless she gives him 50 cents or a dollar. Even when I tell her it's fine, she makes me take what she gives.
2007-01-04 10:06:04 · update #1
No i dont think it is rude, say something like hey I got 2 (little fib) toddler beds as gifts for Christmas and I only need one, do you or anyone you know of need one, it is brand new and hate to throw it out or not use it...let me know...be casual and you'll prolly be surprised at how happy she is.....good luck
2007-01-04 09:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The little boy would not be too old for the toddler bed, and if you just mention it to the neighbor, she may be grateful for the bed. Just ask casually if she has a need for a toddler bed... she could probably use the help. I have a neighbor who always offers her daughter's outgrown clothing and things for my daughter who is actually older than hers, but a size smaller. I am grateful for the extra clothes, which my daughter uses as her school clothes, so it doesn't matter if they get ruined. As long as you offer in the spirit of sharing what you have with those who may not, they shouldn't be offended.
2007-01-04 18:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be rude, as long as you word it right. Just say your daughter got a new bed and you were wondering if she needed a toddler bed, or knew anybody that needed one, so it doesn't seem like your pin pointing her. I went through the same thing recently, I received an extra pack and play at my baby shower, and knew a young mother who had nothing and had her baby sleep in the car seat every night at 8 months old! Luckily she didn't take it the wrong way, and was very grateful. Hope everything works out, Good Luck!
2007-01-04 18:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jen W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That actually would be a very neighborly thing to do and not rude at all. Simply tell her that you have something that you no longer need and that you would rather someone get some use out of it, rather then just throw them away. She could probably use all the help she can get. As for the cigarette thing, that is different. She probably considers that an "indulgence" for her, which is completely different than a "need" for the children. Most people with children are very happy to get items that another child has outgrown. I was always glad when my friends passed things on to me for my daughter. Providing for the kids is the most important thing.
As for if the little boy is too old or not, she can judge that for herself. If he is too big, she may know someone else who could use the bed.
Best wishes
2007-01-04 18:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I THINK IT IS VERY GENEROUS FOR YOU TO OFFER. IF YOU ARE WORRIED THAT IT MAY SEEM AS IF YOU ARE OFFERING TO GIVE HER THE BED OUT OF PITY, SIMPLY TELL HER THAT YOU HAVE A BED YOU WON'T BE NEEDING, AND YOU WERE WONDERING IF SHE COULD POSSIBLY PUT IT TO GOOD USE? TELL HER YOU WERE JUST GOING TO DONATE IT TO CHARITY (LIKE THE SALVATION ARMY OR GOODWILL) BUT YOU WANTED TO CHECK TO SEE IF SHE WANTED IT FIRST. BY MENTIONING THAT YOU WERE PLANNING TO DONATE IT ANYWAY, IT SAYS THAT YOU REALLY WEREN'T PLANNING TO USE IT AND THAT YOU DON'T WANT MONEY FOR IT. IF SHE SAYS NO, THEN I WOULDN'T PUSH THE ISSUE. I WOULD JUST SAY THAT YOU ARE SCHEDULING THE PICK UP IN A WEEK OR TWO AND IT IS STILL HERS TO TAKE IF SHE CHANGES HER MIND. IF SHE DOESN'T CLAIM IT WITHIN THAT TIME, THEN DO WHAT YOU WANT WITH IT. ALSO 3 IS NOT TOO OLD FOR A TODDLER BED IN MOST CASES. IF NOTHING ELSE , SHE WILL APPRECIATE THE GESTURE. IT IS VERY KIND OF YOU. :)
2007-01-05 00:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be rude at all. You could casually tell her that you have a toddler bed to give away and would she like it or does she know someone who would. I've done this many times with things my kids have outgrown.
As for the size, it depends on how big the little boy is. Some kids can stay in them until they are five. BTW, I think it's great that you are doing this. Brava!
2007-01-04 17:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by C C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could just bring it up in casual conversation next time you see her
Hey I have a toddler bed that my daughter grew out of. I got her a new bed for christmas and I was wondering if you could use it. I was just going to drop it off at the salvation army but I thought so and so might like it. Let me know if you are interested i will have my husband bring it over.
That was she doesn't have to feel obligated to give you money since you are telling her you were just going to give it to the salvation army.
2007-01-04 20:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make it sound like she's doing you a favor. "I have this bed I'm not using and it is in the way. Do you have room for it?" If she absolutely must pay you, tell her you don't think it is right for her to give you more than $5, because it has been used. She can decide if he is too big, but probably not. He may just be happy to have his own bed, if they are sharing. I love hand-me-downs. I wish you were my neighbor.
2007-01-04 19:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude; do you know this woman? Is she easily offended or something? If she is, stress that you don't need it, and it's just going to sit around in your garage or go to the salvation army if you dont use it.
If the boy is close to three, he'll be out of the bed within the nest year to year and a half, I would guess, but hey, if he doesn't have a bed right now, he'll be happy that he has one. And so will his grandma.
2007-01-04 18:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by mumzii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How well do you know this elderly neighbor? If she takes your kindness any way other than what it is.....thats her problem than. My nephew is 5 and still sleeps in his race car bed....3 is not too old for a toddler bed, he is a toddler..lol.
2007-01-04 18:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Tucker K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋