until marridge? Please, I need both a female and male perspective.
2007-01-04 09:51:11 · 21 answers · asked by lovelyeyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One advantage is that you don't end up being married to someone you're not sexually compatable with. I would at least talk alot about it to make sure you have the same concepts, fantasies, expectations and so forth.
2007-01-04 09:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Bored Enough To Be Here 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I can't think of one advantage of waiting, maybe it makes the first time more exciting? Although the first time is always gonna be exciting no matter what really...also religiously you could stay within the rules of your religion if premarital sex is frowned upon.
Big disadvantage is what happens if/when you realize that the two of you are not compatible sexually? Sex is a factor in the happiness of a relationship, do you really want to wait to find out how good/bad it is?
2007-01-04 09:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a different opinion so none are right or wrong. Mine is that if I meet someone special then after getting to know them, I would like to have sex. I personally wouldn't want marry anyone that I hadn't had sex with because what if they do things that you aren't into or vice-versa. What if the sex is no good. Sex is a big part of life and I think you should be sexually compatible before becoming married.
2007-01-04 09:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by k b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A huge advantage to waiting is that you won't compare your spouse to a previous sex partner. Another is that you can experience sex for the firs time first with your spouse and that will allow you to bond on a much deeper level. I personally don't think premarital sex is a good idea, but I hope you find whatever answer you're looking for.
2007-01-04 09:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am 33 and still a virgin. i came close to having sex a few times in my 20s but wasn't able to go thru with it. for me, sex is a very personal and intimidating thing. i can't just do it with anyone. for me, i won't be emotionally ready for sex until i know i am in a strong secure committed relationship.
it's a little different for girls. they don't need to worry about getting and sustaining an erection in order to have sex.
for me, sex will always be a unique and special thing that i will only do with one person.
those who have sex with many partners, will never be able to truly understand and have this special emotional bond with their partner.
the big disadvantage, is there is never any guarantee that i will ever get married.. and if i do, you never know, the marriage might not last..
33 years without sex is not easy to handle.. especially in a world where society tells us that we should all want sex, and we should all be having sex as soon as we turn 14.
anyway, that's my take on it..
2007-01-04 10:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advantages-Knowing your partner, experience. Knowing your likes and dislikes. Getting it out of your system. Playing the field.
Disadvantages-Not knowing what you are getting into. No experience. Possibly not liking your new spouse or later in the marriage, feeling like you have not "sown your wild oats". ( and possibly cheating)
As for the above, any kind of unprotected premarital sex is irresponsible.
2007-01-04 09:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male opinion: I'm going to have to say wait on this one. What if the relationship doesn't work out and you're stuck with a baby? What if one of you gets an STD and the other leaves? If you can find the patience within yourself, you have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE by waiting.
I think it's selfish to use sex simply as a source for pleasure. Sex is a wonderful union between a man and HIS WIFE, not a man and HIS GIRLFRIEND.
I wish we could bold these answers...sorry I hope I didn't come across as shouting at you.
2007-01-04 09:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by senior07 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think premarital sex is perfectly normal and acceptable.
Advantages of waiting are not catching any STD's...and it probably makes it more meaningful...
Disadvantages would probably include some serious blue balls, you wont be experienced, you wont get to see how it is with more than one person, and you'll prolly never learn to REALLY enjoy it.
2007-01-04 09:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the advantage is getting to know someone and liking them for them and not based on sex. You fall in love with that person and then when you get married you get to make love on your honey moon. And it will be wonderful just to wait and more exciting.
2007-01-04 09:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course in the bible it's supposed to be wrong. for awhile i thought my boyfriend and i could stop having premarital sex but of course we didnt. i mean i know i'm in love. so i know i'm not being promiscious about it. that's just gross. i feel that it's making love and not having sex. honestly if i would have known that i would have fallen in love with my boyfriend now i would have never had sex. i would have waited. it seems so special. giving something of yourself that's so important to someone you love. wait if you can. deff. it's just seems like such a beautiful thing if you wait.
2007-01-04 09:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by cynfyx3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no advantage in waiting but I do see a disadvantage in waiting. That is the disadvantage of lack of experience.
2007-01-04 09:53:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋