All the girls in my class think I'm a prude because I'm a virgin. Am I really that bad off?

Question

All of them (okay, that makes 3) are or think they are preganant, and are upset about it, yet they think I'm a nuts because I've never had sex. Even my boyfriend thinks I'm crazy, and I'm getting tired of all the bullshit. What do I do, besides say no?

I'm going crazy. Hormomones are not helping me, either.

Answer 1

Don't let them pressure you - I think they just want to see you make the same mistakes they did, and drag you down. Do what you want, and play it safe.

There are other things than intercourse to have fun with.

Answer 2

You need to just ignore the pressure that is upon you. These days girls just want to have sex, sex, sex, just so they can feel popular, which is so sad. You ought to give yourself a pat on the back every time you feel pressured.

You are the wise one to not follow their examples and you should be proud of yourself too. You may want to say a big thanks to your parents for bringing up a daughter who is willing to wait for that one special person....only after marriage is what you are hoping for, I hope!

Don't let your boyfriend pressure you either, if he just wants you because he thinks you will have sex with him, you need to let him know that you don't like to be pressured and that you as a young lady would like to wait because it is that important to you, and tell him that you also respect your body. (smile) If he still doesn't understand, then you should let him go.

I am sure they will all get the picture and maybe they will start looking up to you for being a good example in the crowd.

Just remember, words can hurt, but they will never make you change your mind on how you feel or think. Just do the right thing.....and your parents will be so proud of you! (smile)

Answer 3

No, you're not a prude. It's not a big deal to be a high school-age virgin (I suspect you're in high school). In fact, I think it's commendable. Your classmates, who obviously aren't the most responsible role models, are just being catty, as some high school girls will be. You have a purity that they threw away; on some level, they're probably jealous.

If it helps, I stayed a virgin all through high school and don't regret it. And I know others, women included, who did the same. Stay true to yourself.

As for the hormones, there are other outlets.

Answer 4

Hi there!

First off I want to commend you for being a virgin! That is so great, girl! You're doing the right thing by waiting to have sex until you're married. As far as the girls in your class are concerned: they are probably regretting having sex (because they are or might be pregnant) and are ragging on you to make themselves feel better. They are angry and upset with themselves for being un-prepared and immature when it comes to sex and now facing the consequences. If they continue to hassle you, tell them in a firm (but nice) way that you are a virgin because that's how you choose to live your life, and if they have a problem with that, it is not your fault.

As far as your boyfriend is concerned: if he really cares about you he will respect the fact that you're a virgin and are waiting until you get married. If he can't respect your morals and how you choose to live your life you might not want to be with him. Some guy out there will respect you, I promise.

Keep the faith, girl! You're doing great and I'm so proud of you!! :)

Answer 5

Hey, I'm a virgin too. I think you need to hold off that peer pressure and follow your own morals. Just because everyone else is getting pregnant doesn't mean you need to also -- but it may mean that you need to find some better people to hang out with. It's your decision and YOU ALONE should be responsible for making it.

Answer 6

Listen to me very carefully,,,take pride in the fact you are still one. There are very few woman who have enough respect for themselves to keep it until later in life. Trust me on this one please take care of yourself, dump your looser of a boyfriend who thinks you are nuts for still being one. Trust me when the right guy somes along later in life, you will stand out head above shoulders from the rest when you can tell him that you have enough respect for yourself to not have done it. I had the same thing at school and trust me it is worth waiting for, and I sometimes wish I waited even longer than I did. If your friends are giving you hastles about the fact, they are just jelous and are probably not good friends to hang out with to begin with.

Answer 7

I think you are doing great! You should stick by it. You didnt mention how old you are. That would help me answer your question better.
You should tell them that you are better than them. Atleast you have will power and dont have to worry about getting pregnant.
Who cares about having sex just for the heck of it. You should do it when you think you are ready for it,

Answer 8

Nothing. It's ok to be a virgin. If you're not ready why do it. Don't do anything stupid just because you feel the peer pressure. Do it when you feel it's right and you want to do it, not because other reasons. If your bf doesn't understand that then maybe he's not right for you.

Answer 9

Break up with him. He suppose to support you on your decisions. Don't be force to make bad decisions because your friends wants you to fit in. Your females friends will regret having kids later on in the future with the baby daddy. Just be yourself, a lot of guys like virgins because they know there aren't s l u t s. So please stay conservative and you will find someone special.

Answer 10

You have nothing to be ashamed of and your friend are probably just jealous because they have lost theirs and cant get it back. You have another 50 years or so for sex, so there is plenty of time. Dont be pressured into anything. Wait until YOU are ready, not them.