My boyfriend travels for work maybe 4-5 times a year. We have talked about traveling/visiting to "closer" places (In the US) together, places we have never been. This includes Las Vegas, California, Boston etc..just cities I would LOVE to see with him. Well, his work has recently been "sending" him to ALL of those places- for a conference that is ONE day long, but they send him (as well as many female coworkers-never male) for a whole week so they can "enjoy" personal time. So instead of asking me to fly out with him, or coming home early so we can experience the places together another time..he just lives and parties it up, not even thinking about me. We planned to go all those cities/states within the next few years and it is just going to suck knowing hes already been-maybe even more than once. What do I say to him..if I should say anything?
2007-01-04 09:39:42 · 10 answers · asked by Ash_082 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, there have been 2 times where just he stays longer to have more "personal time" because "he never knows if he will get a chance to go back".
2007-01-04 09:40:58 · update #1
You should definitely say something to him because maybe he doesnt have a clue. But you have to be careful because he might think you dont want him to go at all. You definitely want to give him some space but not as much as he is getting currently.
Maybe before one of his trips, you should tell him that you want to go with him too. And then tell him how you feel. His reaction will be a good indication of what is going on.
2007-01-04 09:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by coolgurl261286 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's up to something, if the conference is only for a day but he's there a whole week he could totally take you with and spend quality time after work. I would definitely talk to him about it.
2007-01-04 09:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by CHERYL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about these trips. Yes, his company maybe sending him to the places for meetings, but he can't over stay on the company expense. have you ever asked him to bring you along or do you just help him pack and say fair well. Does he at least bring back souvenirs. Talk to him. Let him know how you feel.
2007-01-04 09:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by naomijoan0615 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound right. When I go to conferences, if I stay longer than the job requires, I have to use my vacation time. Jobs won't pay for extended vacations. I don't think he's beinig totally honest.
2007-01-04 09:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by Indeed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is only working then it probably won't be much fun, but on those extended trips tell him you'd like to meet up with him and have a trip together. If he saya no I'd find out why not.
2007-01-04 09:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by KM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not inviting u to fly out with him, then u need to look closer at your relationship. Especially if he is with nothing but female coworkers. I see many red flags, u really need to look into this more.
2007-01-04 09:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by bdgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Companies don't send employees to a one-day conference for a whole week. He's lying to you, and disrespecting you.
2007-01-04 09:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Ali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny about that....I traveled the same as your bf, but I took a separate room wherever and took my wife with me....she had to wait every day til my work was over, but then we did the town....good luck...
2007-01-04 09:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by The Emperor of Ecstasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you go with him? Sounds kinda fishy. You should ask to go with him on one of the trips and gauge his reaction. I don't want to say start to not trust him, but maybe pay close attention.
2007-01-04 09:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Europe then, or Brazil, or Thailand. There is still alot of world left to see. Ask him to bring you or just surprise on his business trips too.
2007-01-04 09:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋