I didn't really make this clear the first time I asked it... But no this question is NOT about my girlfriend! It is about a co-worker! I have this really annoying pest of a woman bugging me everyday! Anyone want to fill me in on how to get rid of a person that just DOES NOT get the hint no matter how many you give her to just leave you alone!? I'm going crazy!
2007-01-04 09:35:56 · 17 answers · asked by Tyler J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If this is a co worker and you want her to leave you alone than there are methods. First you are going to have to put shyness away. 2nd be prepared to be assertive but not a total prick. You need to lay the law down about how serious you are about this girl not making advances on you. Tell her, "I am getting married. You and I are never going to happen, I have tried to be subtle, nice and compassionate and that does not seem to impact you. Make no mistake about it, us as an item is an impossibility and I would appreciate it if you would stop making advances with me." That should get the point accross, just try not to show any anger when you come across like that because you may end up really just hurting her needlessly. Not just that make sure she is actually coming on to you and not just being herself. I had a friend like that where I always thought she was coming on to me and I asked her to go out with me and she said, "Oh sweetie, I'm not coming on to you, I am just so relaxed around you I can be myself." as she was laughing with her hand on my leg almost in my lap...
2007-01-04 10:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by J-Dub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is truly a difficult situation to be in. I've been there myself. On one hand, you may not want to be rude and make a scene about it. On the other, it doesn't appear anything you say or do gets the desired results of being left alone.
I would be honest and blunt with her. Tell her that you are engaged to be married and are very happy with your Fiance'. Tell her that she has made it rather uncomfortable to be around her when she is constantly making unwanted advances towards you. Tell her this is the last time you wish to discuss this and that she needs to set her sights on someone who is single.
If she still persists? Then you need to file a sexual harrasment suit against her. Bring it to your boss/supervisor's attention. Tell them you tried to deal with it yourself but you have exhausted finding anything that works. If this doesn't work? Then get a restraining order. If its that extreme? Its time for extreme measures......
Good luck and may you have a wonderful marriage.....
2007-01-04 10:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by slavetofs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start eating onions and going up and talking to her very closely with lots of big breaths. Be rude and annoying to her in other ways. Talk to another about how much you love your girlfriend. She'll get the hint. Congratulations on your upcoming engagement!
2007-01-04 09:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by not given 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried telling her straight out to leave you alone? Some people don't get 'hints', maybe if you tell her in plain language she'll go away. Tell her you're there to work not socialize and her interruptions are really starting to effect your productivity...something along those lines. If that doesn't work try talking to your supervisor.
2007-01-04 09:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Dignan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its a co worker....file sexual harrassment ...that should give her the hint.<----joke!
I take it you've tried talking to her already? ( I missed the first time you asked) Personally I would think getting engaged would give her an idea....maybe if you can get your girlfriend to come to work to meet you for lunch more.....make some more apperances together around this person?
or you could always try the .....start encouraging her to lean towards someone else in the office...make it some one elses problem! LOL
good luck
2007-01-04 09:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by twinsline7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her flat out that you are not interested in her whatsoever and that you are going to be proposing to the love of your life very soon. If she still doesn't get it then tell her that you will not tolerate sexual harassment in the workplace and you will be speaking to your higher up very soon. That should send her a very clear message.
2007-01-04 09:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them. It may make it a bit odd and awkward....but I bet she learns the lesson.
I always tell coworkers "I am here to work, and not to make friends." I'm not going to let someone else ruin my day.
Mostly though I tell people like that "I'm really busy- I'll come talk to you when I get a chance."
That sucks though- I know the feeling.
2007-01-04 09:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by ÐIESEŁ ÐUB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No more hints tell her that your going to be engaged and she needs to leave you alone already or your finance' is coming over to kick her butt !
2007-01-04 10:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is to go up to her and tell her that you don't hate her but you want to be left alone.You should also tell her that your girlfriend might get jealous and think that you and her are together and it would break her heart and she might dump you but you really love her.
2007-01-04 09:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by krystiana101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be frank with her. At this point, if being nice isn't working, then maybe you should try stepping on some toes - so to speak.
2007-01-04 09:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by melissa_marie45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋