I feel as though i have no time for me now ,i have to look after a child with a child while trying to hold down a full time job. sometimes i feel like things are hopeless.
2007-01-04 09:31:24 · 8 answers · asked by oompalah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im a young mother i had my son when i was 17(Im now 19), I know its a whole 2 years older then your daughter but it's still young. Where is the baby's dad? Does he have anything to do with the baby? Does your daughter get any time for her? Does she try to do the best she possibly could for the baby?
When i told my mum that i was pregnant at 16, she wasnt over the moon but she supported and comforted me. The best thing my mum ever said to me was, "If you cant support your kids through this, when can you support them?"...
Im not saying that your grandchild is your responsibility, but I think that at the moment your daughter is scared and is probably feeling like sh*t. She should be out 'hanging' with friends and be young and partying and going to school, but instead because of one careless act she has more responsibility than any of her 'friends' could ever understand. Encourage your daughter to take the baby to support groups for mothers. Playgroups offer more support and outlets than you may realise. I look after my son full time, I rent our home and i live independently, but i still call on my mum if i occasionally need a break(about once a month) or if i need anything. A mother is the best thing to have when you go into motherhood yourself... I know it may seem hard, but trust me your daughter does appreciate all you do for her and her baby. Just remember if you cant support her now, When can you?
BTW- Make at least one night or evening, where you go and do something for you, go out with friends, go join a new hobby(ten pin or something)... All im saying is just remember your daughter is probably just really scared at the moment, playing mummy is actually alot harder than playing dolls...
2007-01-04 10:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am almost 15, but my grandmother had my mother at 15 and she said it was very hard, but she did it on her own with a job. If she could make it I know you can. I'll pray for you, and I hope you will feel better in time. Maybe you should set up something with her. Like maybe she should get a job and maybe you can take the baby to daycare while she's in school, and she'll pay half or all. When she gets home from school, she should watch the baby or do her homework first and then watch the baby and take care of him/her. It shouldn't be all your responsibility, you didn't make the baby.
2007-01-04 09:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. My daughter had a baby at 15 and I had to work full time because my ex abandoned us in a state where I had no family nor friends. It was and still is tough for both of us. I raised my grandson for the first 3 years of his life then had to give him back to her because of unfortunate circumstances. He's now 10 yrs old and living with me again. I have supported her and the kids emotionally and financially. Hard extremely. But first and foremost is my grandson who is my heart. I married young and had my babies young so when I reached this age I could do whatever I wanted with my life. But in the long run my grandson needs me more. Do I regret it? For my daugther, yes because she clearly wasn't ready to raise a baby. For myself, no because when I look him all I see is a young boy wanting and needing love and I'm going to love him with all I've got. I know you feel overwhelmed right now but it does get better I promise. If you'd like to email me I'd be more than happy to chat with you just leave a message on here and I'll get in touch with you. Hope this helps!
2007-01-04 09:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by ♀_♥₤ẩϋřą♥_♂ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 16 myself and although im not a mother, i can tell how hard it would be to look after a child.... your daughter is so brave for taking on this responsibility and i know that i could never do it....however, she has chosen to keep this baby and she needs to take the brunt of the responsibility, not you.... by the sounds of it you are terribly overworked and you might become ill if you keep on the way you are going... keep helping your daughter by all means... but just do less... good luck
2007-01-05 03:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you
I know you must feel like you are responsible for her having underage sex and conceiving
Cos as Mums we always blame ourselves [well I do]
But it's practical support that you need,
You have to make your daughter look after the baby.
I assume that you are doing night feeds too,
You may have to be cruel to be kind and stop doing things for the baby,
When your daughter is 16 she will have to be an adult,
She will be able to have a local authority tenancy, and you won't have to deal with it then
Make her take responsibilty
2007-01-04 09:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of my freinds just had a baby and she is messing up her so bad and they are keeping the baby. she didn't go to school all of this year and then daddy left her as soon as she told him she was pregnat. i think it is stupid to do that at that age!!!!
2007-01-04 09:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by miss heartbreaker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should consider getting close family or friends to help. its not fair that you should be taking all the stress.and obviously get your daughter to do her bit.
2007-01-04 09:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by missree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the wonderful world of second generation blues...just when you think the time is almost here for doing things you want to do, you are burdened with another life to raise.....So sad.....good luck to you....just hang in there I guess.....
2007-01-04 09:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by The Emperor of Ecstasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋