My boyfriend (of five years) hadn't seen his best friend (of a year) in about a month. Before this, they would hang out together and his friend is divorced. That meant after they would do their thing like fishing they would come pick me up to go out to dinner, movies, etc. So his friend would become like our third wheel which I didn't mind. His friend would flirt with me all the time, tell me I look nice, tell me i smelled good, and open doors for me. A few months ago I suspected that he was starting to fall for me. I could tell by the way he would look at me and always stand or sit near me. After this, he became more distant i suspect because of the feelings. Well, he came to my house the other night to see my bf and he is usally very friendly. he was giving me the cold shoulder, wouldn't look at me and barely said anything to me. Is this because he has a thing for me? He is a good friend to my bf and i don't want to come between that. I just thought it was rude
2007-01-04 09:21:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend has noticed the flirting, but he is not the jealous type. Besides he knows that he has nothing to worry about. I even told that I thought his friend was falling for me, but he just said I was crazy
2007-01-04 09:46:54 · update #1
You should have never allowed that guy to become a "third wheel". The worst one was letting him compliment you with the kind of compliments he gave--you look nice, you smell nice and opening doors is a gentlemanly thing to do--but not if you are someone's best friend and you are directing that towards his woman.
2007-01-04 10:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bet that your instincts are right on the money. It sounds like he was nursing a crush on you for a while and after realizing that you were unattainable, fell into a sulk. Now he's probably trying to deal with his emotions by pretending you don't exist.
Don't blame him too much. The breakdown of a romantic fantasy can be hard on a guy, even if it wasn't a realistic fantasy in the first place.
What does your boyfriend think of all this? I'm surprised he hasn't noticed. You might want to talk to HIM. The best solution for now, I think, would be for your boyfriend and his friend to do their guy stuff by themselves (heck, it might be a great time for your boyfriend to enjoy his interests that normally bore you to tears) and for you and your boyfriend to go on dates without the third wheel. In time, hopefully, the friend will get over his feelings for you and you'll be able to hang out with him again.
2007-01-04 09:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a female will do something to be enjoyed. a guy will lie,thieve and cheat for intercourse. If this father and husband has been seeing you for 2 yrs and has no longer dumped his family individuals, he's utilising you for intercourse and could on no account go away his family individuals. in case you reside with him he will use you till his spouse exhibits out and then he will sell off you like a warm potato. His spouse is his love and you're getting used. What he took is what you gave willingly. while he did no longer look to take you out in public did no longer you wager he grew to become into married? because of the fact which you weren't in any respect to his place didn' t you wager? he's of low morals. He would extremely shield you yet he won't in any respect go away. Sorry
2016-10-06 10:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has feelings for you but realised it isn't going to go anywhere. So he is trying to get rid of those feelings by ignoring you (ignoring his feelings). This is what we men do sometimes we can be stubborn but we know you women love us anyway ;-p
One thing you must not do is show excessive nice behavior to him, he will start to think you like him too, and this will give him false hopes.
A good idea might be to try set him up with a friend of yours, or get your boyfriend to encurrage him to date and that way you can have double dates, put it that way and not in a way that will seem like you are trying to get rid of the third wheel.
2007-01-04 09:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by SiriuS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your explanation of the situation, it sounds like the friend has feelings for you as well.
I would recommend taht you let the friend know how you feel honestly and prevent any possible negative consequences.
Talk to your bf about this too and see how he feels about the situation. After all, your bf probably noticed the same differences you have noticed too.
2007-01-04 09:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by Andy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe he has a crush on you. It may be a little embarassing for him, plus, he may feel like he is betraying his friend. It hurts when you fall for someone who is untouchable, especially someone you have no choice but to be around. I would not take offense, and just act normal, but be careful. Maybe try and give your bf and him their own time. But also be aware, love can make people do crazy things, so be sure he doesn't try and do something to cause problems between you and your bf.
2007-01-04 09:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is one of two things: First, if your man hasn't seen his friend in over a month, maybe he thinks you're the cause of it. Like you won't let him see this guy. The other is that he likes you and knows it's inappropriate so his way of dealing with it is to just not interact with you. I do that when I know a person is going to piss me off. Someone may also do it in this kind of situation.
2007-01-04 09:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decoding male behaviour is difficult since there is often an absence of logic. Unless you enjoyed the attention from this guy and encouraged him, my advice is to ask him if you've done something to offend him. This should hopefully be the start of a conversation in which you mention his behaviour toward you has changed, and he explains it.
2007-01-04 09:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, we could have 2 scenarios here. 1 - yes he does like you and is trying to be indifferent...just deal with it...he knows you have a bf which happens to be his friend and this is his way of dealing with it.
2 - he's gay and jealous of you.
But I think it's #1 and just let him/them be friends together and all 3 of you, too. It will work itself out. And you are not coming between them...if he's a true friend...it will, again, work itself out.
2007-01-04 09:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by Vanity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don' think that he is being that way because he likes you. Maybe he was just having a bad day, and needed your bf to talk to, but didn't want to bear his soul in front of you. You know guy stuff.
2007-01-04 09:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋