My 17 year old senior son likes a 14 year old eighth grader. What should I do?

Answer 1

This is a very hard situation... You can't push him away from her, because if you do that, he will want her more out of spite. I would just weigh it out, the year is almost over, and he will go on to college, the army, or whatever, and find someone else. Trust me, most guys wont date a high school girl anymore. It will go away, they are young. He is not legal yet, so don't stress about it. Tell him... "I don't mind if you date this girl/like this girl, but just be very careful because once you turn 18 her parents can press charges and you will get into a lot of trouble, so just be careful" I would say exactly that, and don't worry too much about it, and def don't give him any **** about it, he will move on, trust me. Good luck.

Answer 2

If it were me, I'd sit down with him and let him know that while I'd be supportive of any decision he makes there are some things to consider. One, the girl he likes is young, too young to understand the consequences of relationships specially relationships with an older person. Also, that while he might like her now that doesn't mean they'll have a lot in common if they start dating. They're probably on totally different maturity levels. Then I would warn him about when he turns eighteen age will be a factor. Other then that just try to be supportive within reason. He's stlill under age so for now it's not a problem. As long as he realizes she's young and can be very easily hurt, even over something as silly as him not calling often enough. However eventually he'll have to find out for himself, but guidance is always better then pushing him away.

Answer 3

Well, the real question is, do you trust him?

If you do, then there should be no problem. Girls mature faster than guys, so there's a good chance your son and his crush on on equal footing. She's probably flattered.

If you don't trust him, then talk to him--if you know the girl or her parents, maybe you should talk to them (if she reciprocates). By trusting, I mean trusting him not to take advantage of her, push her farther than she wants to go, or deceive her--you get it. If she's in eighth grade, she probably has less experience with relationships than your son.

Unless you think for some reason that this relationship is a really bad idea, go with it. Make sure your son understands this girl is much younger than him, then let it go. Ask yourself what you were like in eighth grade and if you would want to date someone that much older, and work off of that.

If you don't trust your son, you need to put a stop to this--for everyone's best interests. Try to be understanding and don't alienate him.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Not to be harsh but he's still your CHILD and YOUR responsibility - all of this **** about pushing them together, should I or shouldn't I - You are the parent - set some guidelines -step up to the plate and make your expectations clear. We all know this is "puppy love". Personally I think you should talk to the girl's parents - in their eyes this may be a non-issue as it should be. And to the post regarding legality - that alone is enough to lay it on the line - if she did date him, and she did get pregnant he'd probably be 18 by then and guess what, if her parents want to retaliate he could be charged with statuatory rape and/or be paying child support for the next 18 years +. We need to stop being our children's friends and start being their PARENTS!!! If my 8th grader wanted to "date" a senior trust me, we would be having a Gilmore Girls talk immediately!

Answer 5

I don't know what state you live in but in several states a boy over 16 with a girl of 14 is illegal and is a crime. If it is not illegal in your state, it is a very, very bad idea and you should eliminate this is a part of your son's life IMMEDIATELY

Answer 6

get together with her parents and talk it over if you have to get legal papers signed that they are allowed to date i know it sounds funny but your son could get arrested and put on a sex affenders list if you don't take every precaution necessary, i've seen it happen! if they ever became sexually active and the girl got mad at him she could lie to get him in trouble theres really no telling what kind of situations could happen! youre in a hard position because you don't want to tell him he can't see someone he likes you can't help who you like so like i said i would sit down and talk with the parents before i let them out of the house together its sad that the world is like this! you can't even let your children date without worrying about a lawsuit good luck

Answer 7

my suggestion is to get involved in ur son's relationship with her. and by involved i mean meet her and her parents. talk to them about what they think about it all. talk to both of them about no sex or at the very least safe sex. (to prevent her getting pregnant so young.) as of this only lasting some before hes 18. not completely true. i know lots of couples of teenage girls who dated older guys who stayed together for years, but as long as the parents of both of them were involved. this can avoid her parents from trying to put ur son in jail in the future. because they are less likely to if they know the boy's parents and know that everyone is educated enough not to get pregnant ect.

Answer 8

well theres not much you can do. you could tell him to leave her alone but then he will want her more. we always want what we can't have. heres what i would do. i would tell him that he has a right to date who he wants but that she is only 14 and may not be ready for things that he may be wanting to do. not that you think he should do those things but if he did and he got her pregnant he could be put in jail. tell him he is up for a challege if he was to date her. once he turned 18 he would not be legally aloud to date her. problems every where. good luck.

Answer 9

Make sure you talk to the girls parents to make sure thay are ok with this. because she is under age and your son could get into a lot of trouble.

Answer 10

IT is alright you know some husband and wife have a 10 year difference in their age this is just 3 years difference.