moving on can be a huge mistake too remember. If you are old enough...you can remember some good ones who got away because we did just that. It might just be a function of these boards too as people don't want to analyze situations where they don't know the players. kind of interesting anyway.....
2007-01-04 09:16:46 · 18 answers · asked by keepingitgoing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe it is yet another testament to our disposable society. If it's too hard, or isn't quite to our liking, throw it away. We have become so very spoiled and self-centered as a society.
2007-01-04 09:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by James L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people have no REAL idea what grief is and so they say move on, or pull yourself up by the bootstraps- and a bunch of other sayings they have been taught to say in those situations.
It really is quite sad. The Grief Recovery Handbook, is just about the best source guide to understanding grief, working through it, so we can get through the past and learn without making the same mistakes in relationships. This book also provides some excellent suggestions on coping and moving through relationships which cannot seemingly be closed because of either, deaths, too much damage, and many other situations. Grief, when not handled properly, can keep us in blame, guilt, shame, and many other emotions that will keep us from having healthy relationships for the remainder of our stay here on planet earth!
2007-01-04 09:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no longer something pathetic approximately being 15 and not having had a woman pal, there's no set rule announcing via "XX" age you're able to desire to have had a woman or boy pal. This female sounds like she is encouraging you to be better than a chum. confer together with her, ask her some questions, locate out issues she likes to do and bypass from there. each and every courting starts off out with communique, and it will deliver her the sign which you have an interest in HER, from there it may progression to telephone calls, putting out and dates etc. attempt to undergo in ideas in case you do no longer initiate something, she would get the effect you do no longer care and another guy will certainly replace you.
2016-10-06 10:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because there are so many people that seem to believe that there is nothing they can do about a horrible relationship. Sometimes the best thing you can do is to end it. We become so dependent upon people when we don't have good self-esteem, that it makes it well-nigh impossible to leave. Dependency is addiction and addiction isn't healthy.
Plus - you can't get too many details from these folks. I just give advice based upon what they tell me.
FP
2007-01-04 09:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think most of the advice on her is "move on" because...so many of the people seeking advice are in SERIOUSLY unhealthy relationships. Rarely does someone ask if they should break up with their spouse/BF/GF just beause they forgot to fill the car with gas or because they didn't buy the right color of roses.
Most of the ones seeking help have significant others who are cheating, stealing, lying, doing drugs,drinking, abusing,neglecting, or in some way HURTING the one they love. Last time I checked - these aren't the ones that "Got away" they are the ones we "GOT RID OF".
You make your own happiness - if you are miserable it's time to make a change...and sometimes the change is distancing ourselves from those that are not healthy for us.
2007-01-04 09:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a point. Personally speaking, I believe that a relationship is supposed to enhance an individual. If a relationship is tearing you the shreds physically and emotionally. There is no other choice but to "move on".
2007-01-04 09:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people hv bn in these situations and finally did move on as u say and can relate to the problems people find therselves in although some people find it harder than others because of there love or situation in what happened but in the end we all do move on only in our own time
2007-01-04 09:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by kyfixedit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because moving on is the best thing to do and for all the good ones that got away... it was just not meant to be otherwise they would have come back in the future. i belive in faith i let a couple off good ones loos also but i stil can not belive the same gay i would gossep to the same guy that dated my neese the same guy i have just runned into for years is the same guy i am married to today and love him very much who would have gessed the guy whos father shop i have been steeling sweets from when i was just a little girl is my husbands father. i am so lucky he never cought me...
2007-01-04 09:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by manuel j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably because a lot of us know that it is useless to try to change another person, or give up what is really very important to us in terms of what we want. Life is too short to waste in bad relationships.
2007-01-04 09:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
life is too short and moving on is just a good answer to give those who are stuck in a loveless situation. there is nothing wrong with analyzing, but i found too many of you yahoo answerers overanalyze to the point of insanity. if it not good, then it is not good. why remain fixated on it.
2007-01-04 09:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋