I lied and am lost my parents trust and now cannot go to the school dance, I've tried everything what do I do?

Question

I have already tried sucking up, begging, admitting I was wrong, cleaning, etc!!!

Answer 1

Accept you can't go to the dance. It really is a good idea if you lied. Nothing will get them to change their mind.

Promise to not do it again, tell them you want to earn their trust again and continue helping out.

I think their trust is more important than a school dance. You are now paying the price for lying, and I (as a parent) think it's a fair one. Accept it.

Answer 2

Accept your punishment -- you did the crime now do the time & quit whining about it. You know you were wrong, right?
You had better accept, while you are young, that life is full of consequences -- in the future you should be sure you consider and are willing to endure those consequences before you indulge in foolish behavior.

Sounds like your parents care enough to teach you important life lessons while you are still at home where someone takes care of your day to day needs. A lot of young people don't have people who really care about them & their lives & what their life will be like in the future. Some kids think it's cool to have parents who let them do as they want, party, back-talk, stayout all night, etc but too late in life they realize that their parents were too concerned with their own personal lives and didn't take time to care for their families & then there you are learning so many hard life lessons without the benefit of having home, food, clothing, etc. furnished for you. Count your blessings sweetie & thank your folks for being good parents that care enough to let you be upset with them sometimes becuase they know the lesson you are learning is way more important than a fleeting moment, where you are upset, that will be forgotten the next time they hear "I love you" from your lips.

Do what you can to earn their trust back (it will take quite a while I suspect) & don't forget to respect that trust once you have it.
Good luck.

Answer 3

If you want to grow up, realized that every choice has a consequence. You lied, so you lost their trust and were punished by not being allowed to go to a dance. Your life will not end!!! Realize this, go and talk to your parents letting them know you realize it and it will go along way to earning their trust back. You probably still won't get to go to the dance but that's a price you will have to be willing to pay for making a bad choice! Remember this for the future before you make what might seem like a bad choice and hurray to you parents for actually making a parental choice that is good for their child instead of just blowing it off! Hope this helps.

Answer 4

I hate to say it but you might be out of luck. Being a parent myself the only reason I'd take away a favorite thing (like a dance) would be for a trust issue (lying) or possibly bad grades.

If they "give it back" to you, it's basically saying that what you did is OK.

Try to think if there is anything that would be an equal punishment (like no phone or TV for a week) and offer that in return for you going to the dance. Let them know you understand that what you did was wrong, but can we please find some other way to handle the punishment.

The worst thing you can do is handle it poorly (i.e. throwing a tantrum). That will just be a signal to your parents that they're doing the right thing.

I wish you luck...

Answer 5

You are learning a very basic life lesson. When you make a poor choice you have to accept the consequences. You stay home from the school dance and take the time to think about the results of lying to your parents. It will take time to win back your parents' trust because trust is something you have to EARN. Don't expect it to happen quickly.

Answer 6

Well as a father of 3 teenagers I agree with what seems to be the common consensus among the people who answered your question but I feel the most important thing is to understand why your parents chose such a harsh punishment, it is my guess that they have tried to instill upon you good moral views such as lying is not acceptable. It is not as easy as you think to take things away from your children like dances etc..., it is actually not fun at all to see your children miserable but most of us know that if it helps teach you the right lessons in will all be worth it in the end. So in closing be respectfull of your parents decision and learn from your mistakes so you can teach your children the same life lessons.

Answer 7

I'd be disapointed with your parents if they gave in to your pleas for mercy. As important as this event is to you now, you will look back and laugh at how outrageously unimportant it really is, and be very glad your parents taught you an important lesson. Because if you do certain unethical things when you are an adult the consequences can be devastating, far beyond not being able to go to a dance. Hang in there.

Answer 8

Well I hope for one , as I am sure your parents do, to not lie , it will get you in trouble everytime. As for what are you going to do..you have to take your punishment, learn from it and never do it again. I know it's hard and so do your parents, but there will come a day, when you will look back at this and be glad your parents did it...You will also someday do the same with your own children. Just remember it won't last forever and your parents do love you..

Answer 9

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Answer 10

when is the dance? if its in the next two weeks, then just dont go. respect their ruling on this one and just keep showing that you're responsible all the time, not just when you want something. as for the night of the dance, convince some of your best buddies to come hang out at your house. you can still have a fun time.