in my younger days I was a little puppy and did what ever the girls would ask of me. did that get me any dates?....NO, they wanted somone with a back bone. since then I grew a pair and now I am in a relationship. but the women in this stage want you to be the "Yes Dear" kind of man. what up with that?
2007-01-04 09:04:18 · 21 answers · asked by mud 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't take what women say they want as what they really want. Sounds weird but i'll explain. One women here said that she likes to feel protected. When i read that i see "i want to feel protected, but i want to be seen as above needing it"
With your situation it just looks like a test, to see if they can get you to comply like the other "little puppies" have.
The more you give someone exactley what they want, the more they will demand higher standards.
2007-01-04 09:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by SiriuS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myself as a woman i know where you are coming from......but me personally,I've NEVER been like that,and I`ve been married for ALMOST 9 years.I'm the type that HATES other women that do that crap to their spouses!! My husband and I both see EVERYTHING 50/50,yes we have our arguments..but what relationship don't? LOL
For those males that like their women like this is wrong in their own ways! I think ALL relationships should be 50/50,where the male and female agree on their relationship together!
We ALL should have a back bone and tell each other what we think about everything and NOT hold NOTHING back from your spouse!That`s why you take those vowels when you say those two words " I DO ".
For the ones that like their spouse to do/allow your partner to do this to you....you`re out of your mind!! LOL ; BUT............ you`re the one that has to deal with that relationship like that,and IF you don't like it..THEN.......STOP IT NOW!!!! , or it WILL continue.
Good luck,and i hope this will help you out in some way.
2007-01-04 17:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by bambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the pair you grew is getting in between you and the "yes dear" man they are looking for? Or maybe, just maybe, you have the mistaken impression that girls like being yessed to death or being told what to do. You need to grow up and realize being in an adult relationship requires that there be give and take and some real understanding between people. Not just your way or the highway. Try being yourself, or better yet, give up the jerk act and work on being a decent human being who deserves and gets respect for being yourself and not some fake version that you are projecting to get you some tail. Good luck!
2007-01-04 17:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, with me I don't want a man that I can just run over, because if I can do that how are you suppose to protect me. Most women want to feel protected but loved and cared for at the same time. You should try to find someone that is compatible to you and don't change yourself for anyone. Good luck
2007-01-04 17:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jazz21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do guys always divide it into nice guy vs bad guy, as if that is all there is? Yes women want men with backbone, otherwise they are stuck doing ALL the decision making. But they don't particularly want a dictator either. There IS a happy medium. I think it's men that can't figure it out. We women are pretty much in tune with what we like.
2007-01-04 17:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by lilrubberducky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard for women to find that balance as well as the guys. It seems we go from one extreme to the next. I like that my bf doesn't do everything I ask, yet sometimes he needs to do certain things for me. It's called give and take on everyone in the relationship. Good luck with that.
2007-01-04 17:07:34 · answer #6 · answered by bdgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys can't figure each other out. How the heck do we expect the opposite sex to be able to figure us out or us figure them out. That's like and as such we must be ourselves and hopefully the people that we choose to live with or have relationships with will except us for these qualities.
2007-01-04 17:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it's good you used to be like that. i mean, yeah, we want a guy with a backbone but we also want him a little considerate and kind to us. not treating us like we're nothing all the time. thankfully i found the right person. he's very sweet but he also stands up for himself in the right way. he's just what i was looking for.
2007-01-04 17:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoStar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with that? If I ask my husband to do something around the house, he usually does it. It might take him a few days to get around to it, but usually its not a problem. Why would it be? I do alot of things around the house for him- It should be 50/50!
2007-01-04 17:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They want guys with a backbone that can stand up against everything except against them.
What's so difficult to understand about that?
2007-01-04 17:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by sgunes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋