ok my bf lied to me about this other girl and i recently found out that while he was going out with me he was going out with her too...and he just broke up with her...he doesnt seem to be faised that he was going out with two girls...he doesnt seem to be bothered by the fact that he has lied to me many times...should i forgive him? what should i do?
2007-01-04 08:57:55 · 29 answers · asked by AJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know that i shouldnt forgive him..so what would be the best thing to tell him without sounding too mean
2007-01-04 09:07:53 · update #1
Honey, he cheated on you.....if he had told you he was seeing someone else besides you, that's one thing. Dump him and find someone who will be loyal to you.
2007-01-04 09:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by Vanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so lets look at this closely.....
your boyfriend was seeing someone else at the same time as he was seeing you - you need to ask your self the following questions
1) why did he break up with her? was it because he was afraid of being caught or just because he got tired or bored?
2)why is he telling you now?
3)has he caught sexual infections/disease from her?
4)has he ever lied to you before - might he start seeing someone else depending on how you respond to him telling you
5) if the shoe was on the other foot, would he forgive you?
does this guy really feel for you? it sounds as if he was playing with you both, he sounds he doesn't really care about you
If i was you I'd let him go, there are plenty of people who would treat you allot better, i know that all men are the same to some point, but you don't need a man to remind of that point..... you need a man that can show you that his like no other men....
Let him go girl, you don't wanna stay with him and then he tells you that his doing the same thing 2 years down the line.
2007-01-04 17:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by licious... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope I don't think you should forgive. Forget him and find a new man that will be faithful and love only you. We shouldn't have to share our man. Then you say that this doesn't even seem to bother him. Well it should. This should be a really BIG red flag for you. I'll tell you one thing. My ex-husband cheated on me when we dated. I forgave him, thought he changed and got married. Well let me tell you. He didn't. He cheated on me a handful of times during our marriage. I feel very strongly that once a cheater always a cheater! Oh and he is remarried and has cheated on her too....so it's a pattern. Some men just can't be faithful. Good thing you found this out about him sooner than later!!!
Good luck
2007-01-04 17:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure...forgive him. Then log on to the Internet and pull up the list of Sexual Offenders and start looking around for dates. Hey, why not head down to the dirtiest strip club in town and give the ol' pole a few swing arounds. Afterall, you must not respect yourself too much if you're seriously considering taking this bum back.
You can't become a doormat otherwise guys will sh!t on you your entire life.
2007-01-04 17:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive him, but you will never forget the feeling that you had when you found out that he cheated on you. If he cheated before he will cheat again and who says this time you will find out? Also, if he is sleeping around, what are you going to do when you end up with a sexual transmitted disease? I would forgive him, but also dump him. Good luck!
2007-01-04 17:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by Deborah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't bothered him about lying to you, he won't miss you. Just bring this up and be mad at him for a few day. if he come begging for forgiveness. Then you are in his heart. If not, well this guy can go out the door right?
2007-01-04 17:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose him, unless you want to be used and lied to for the duration of your relationship. Find a one woman man, you'll be happier, if trust is important to you, can you trust him? Liars will lie if they think they can get what they want and not face any consequences, and you don't want to spend all your time wondering if you can believe him, or chasing him around to confirm your suspicions.
2007-01-04 17:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by barbara b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, forgive him and the next time he will be dating 3 girls at once. He is a scumbag and you can probably do much better.
2007-01-04 17:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See my question about why women go for men that treat them like trash. I had women like you in mind when I wrote it. Next time look for a guy with a great heart not a big john and he won't treat you like that. It's really that simple!
2007-01-04 17:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Jim Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated before and has no remorse or guilt over doing it then, he wont have a problem doing it again. Walk away and find someone who will truly love you. You deserve much better than a slime like him.
2007-01-04 17:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs Z. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, clearly you cannot BELIEVE what he says.
That's who he IS.
If you can live with that, then forgiveness is not in the picture.
If you cannot relate to someone for whom truth is optional, then move on. No forgiveness required. If you told him that you forgave him, his answer would be...What for?
2007-01-04 17:03:33 · answer #11 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋