My brother has been in and out of jail for various offenses over the past 5 years. None of them were violent crimes, most are driving and drug offenses. This time he is going to be in jail for 3 years and I really want to help him make this his last time. He is actually my Step Brother and we were only really close when we were younger, over the years we have really grown apart. I just want to help him kick his drug addiction (heroin) and persuade him to lead a better life when he gets out of jail. Every time he gets out of jail he goes right back to drugs and trouble.
What things can I do while he is in jail to help him lead a better life when he gets out? Any suggestions? Any personal experiences?
2007-01-04 08:53:10 · 11 answers · asked by I Ain't Your Momma 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Another note, I have never bailed him out or given him money. My Step Dad has been there for that. However after the last two arrests he has stopped bailing him out and hasn't hired a lawyer for him. Meaning this time he's stuck with a public defender. I know he's in jail for the longest he's ever been and am hoping this may be the turning point in his life.
2007-01-04 09:12:07 · update #1
while he is in jail go and visit him and tell him how you feel. You can always sign him up for rehab or something when he gets out. Then just encourage him to lead a better life. Being a positive influence always helps
2007-01-04 08:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by lifeisrandom34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do...when he gets out, do NOT give him any money. He will just buy drugs with it and you will never see it again. So, just spend time with him...go see a movie or do whatever you can to keep his mind of drugs and off the people he usually hangs out with. Have a talk with him and let him know that you are worried and want to help him get on the right track.. if he is ready, he will listen. if not, well...there isn't much you will be able to do. just let him know that you are there to support him.
2007-01-04 16:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of exprience with family members in the same situation. They won't stop until they are ready no matter how many times they go to jail or how long they serve. They won't change until they want to, or some never change at all. You can call the prison that he is in and talk to his counselor. I have did that. You can recomend treatment and discuss your brother with her.
2007-01-04 17:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by kyndra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to his public defender to see what programs are offered for him in jail. He has three years to think and detox. See if you can have him move to another location when he gets out. But most of all be there for him. Good luck to you all.
2007-01-04 18:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by *♥♫Hedy♫♥* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant change some one that does not want to be changed... my mother always says, "the only thing you can change about men is their diapers..." just make sure the love you have for him is shown in every way possible, if he truly loves you in return maybe it will show him that he is going to lose the ones he loves because of drugs. it is completely up to him... maybe find out why he turns to drugs in the first place, maybe that will help him stay away from them... hope this helps, good luck
2007-01-04 17:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by ashkro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best thing that you can do for him is to be there for him and let him know that you are. When he gets out, suggest maybe a drug rehab clinic. I'm sure that knowing that you are there for him will help.
2007-01-04 19:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is difficult because u cant send him anything but money. It would be good if they could get self help books into there library in jail. Sorry if this doesnt help.
2007-01-04 17:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brothers addiction isn't your responsibility. If he isn't learning by recieving jail time, he doesn't care to learn. No one will face or overcome addiction until they are ready. The more you make things easy for him, the less work he has to do for himself. People usually have to feel the pains & fall before they quit. You can let him know how it makes you feel but really he has to do what he has to do for himself.
2007-01-04 17:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by annette_642 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him look where his life of crime has gotten him. Either he learns his lesson this time or he doesn't, it's entirely up to him. Do not send him money, there are other ways to support him.
2007-01-04 17:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is keep away and send him letters while he is inside and a odd fiver has things do cost alot inside,you will have to send him a post order,and tell him your thoughts in a letter,and how you have been upset over him ,good luck
2007-01-04 17:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by susanrad10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋