Okay... My boyfriend is mean to me... but when I tell him that I'm going to leave him he tries to suck up and by me stuff. I don't know what to do b.c I love him. But he is very jealous. He doesn't want me to have friends but he can have them. Then he has the nerve to say I owe him respect! I really don't know what to do. Please lend me sum advise!
2007-01-04 08:42:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's drama. If you don't want drama, then dump him and be done with it.
2007-01-04 08:44:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that love is blind, but you really need to get out of this relationship. Anytime someone is that jealous and thinks it's ok for them to have friends and you can't, they're too controlling. If the relationship continues like this you are going to run into some more serious issues. He's very insecure and doesn't want you to have a life. Girl get rid of him. It might hurt initially but I promise you that you aren't going to be sorry you let him go. You will get over him and you will find you a guy who will respect you as well!!! Good luck with your decision!
2007-01-04 08:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, your boyfriend is an immature, self-centered jerk. So far you haven't listed a single good quality for him, so I doubt that you L-O-V-E him. You're just attracted to him because he's so confident, you may even feel in love, but it's not true love. You need to leave him for someone who'll show YOU respect. At the very least, if you really want to try to fix this relationship, you need to stand up for yourself and tell him that he needs to show you as much respect as he expects from you and that you are your own person, you don't belong to him, so of course you will go out with your own friends and he shouldn't act jealous because that's immature. If he can't trust you then there's no point to the relationship. If this wakes him up, then great, but sounds like you need to just leave him.
There are plenty of nice guys out there, go find yourself someone who really cares for you rather than treat you like his possession.
2007-01-04 08:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now what I have to say to this question is that that I will never do this to my girl friend. The advise that I will give you is that if he is talks more to his friends than you and you can't have friends, i would say that you should let him know that it is really anoying you. Or another choise is that you can show him wat you got. Hopefull you now what I mean. show him the skills you got so he will be more interested in you. Then you can marry each other and have a happy marraige. Another thing you can do to let your bf from not getting mean to you is that you can buy him a new car. Then he will be so proud of you. These are some of my opinions that I think you should do.
2007-01-04 08:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by The Champ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should be treated that way. And you love him because why? The way he treats you is not OK. If you are happy with the way he treats you then your giving him the power to do so. I would evaluate the reasons why you love him and make a decision based on what you come up with and make a decision to stay or to go. You deserve the best not what you let him get away with.
2007-01-04 08:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are falling for the oldest trick in the book. As long as you keep going back to him, he knows he controls you. Your threats are empty to him now.
If your kid is acting up and you say 10 times throughout the day, "I'm going to put you on timeout" and you never do. The kid is eventually going to look at you like, "Yeah right".
This is no different. He knows you won't leave as long as he gives the same performance. No woman should endure emotions like that. You know you deserve better, now fight for it.
2007-01-04 08:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by Transformers20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very simple.
He is passive-agressive and insecure and selfish.
Dump him.
The longer you stay with him the more advantage he will take of you. Insane jealousy can lead to violence.
Get out now and move on, sister.
Before it'st oo late.
And I think HE is the one owing you a little respect. Ew, he sounds creepy.
2007-01-04 08:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all your relationship has lost it for him to offend you and then think he can please you with stuff!!!!!!please he only thinks you are a material girl he can buy with stuff and also for him to be so jealous it means that if you guys go on you may feel more hurt cos he will continue to show that he does not trust you especially if he sees you with other men and stuff so girl let him go now and save yourself some "pain".
2007-01-04 08:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by sanmi . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a potential abuser. Most abusive relationships start out that way. He is isolating you so you have no where to go when he starts. Its methodical. You need to leave before it escalates. You need to love yourself and find a man who treats you like you need to be treated.
2007-01-04 08:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by goldenhillsgifts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kindof relationship is soooo unhealthy. He needs to get over whatever insecurities he has and treat you the way you need to be treated or you should move on. I promise you it will only get worse if you don't deal with it now and take a stand. Good luck to you.
2007-01-04 08:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by Hope 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are, but you need to seriously get away from this boyfriend.He is controlling your life and slowly will strip you of who you are..its called mental abuse and no one should ever have to go thru it. Now I know you love him, and if he agrees to consuleing for this, then stand by him but do not allow him to abuse you mentally, verbally or physically...good luck
2007-01-04 08:46:09 · answer #11 · answered by lynda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋